I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety problems and finally with the help of medication and therapy, I feel like me again. And while my life is not perfect, I am happy and feel at peace for the first time in a very very long time. I no longer have sick anxious feelings in the pit of my stomach and I look forward to each day instead of just wishing my life was over.
Here is the problem - I am saying no to my adult children - all in their thirties - no more cash, no more moving, no more saving from their latest relationship problems. And while I can feel empathetic towards their problems, I think they should be handling these situations on their own. I have started to look after myself and put myself first with regards to my life and the things I want to do. I am not talking crazy things here but I do go to the theatre and dinner, take vacations with my husband and go shopping with my friends. In my belief this is self care but my children believe it is narcicisstic. No I do not run any more when they need something or put money in their account or put their needs above mine - I do put myself first.
Can you tell me when self care crosses the line to narcicissm?
Here is the problem - I am saying no to my adult children - all in their thirties - no more cash, no more moving, no more saving from their latest relationship problems. And while I can feel empathetic towards their problems, I think they should be handling these situations on their own. I have started to look after myself and put myself first with regards to my life and the things I want to do. I am not talking crazy things here but I do go to the theatre and dinner, take vacations with my husband and go shopping with my friends. In my belief this is self care but my children believe it is narcicisstic. No I do not run any more when they need something or put money in their account or put their needs above mine - I do put myself first.
Can you tell me when self care crosses the line to narcicissm?