Hello again, I've been coming here a lot lately. I hope I'm not becoming too needy.
Well, anyway, I've been thinking that I might want to contact an old friend who I haven't spoken to in almost a year. I'm not sure what to say though. I'm pretty sure we ended our friendship, but still don't understand why. I think it was a combination of me being depressed, and her feeling that I betrayed her, and a jealousy toward me. I'm sure I've talked about this here before, but I'll tell the short version.
She had a guy friend who wanted to ask me out on a formal date. (he had been my friend for awhile before he asked her if he could ask me out) Yeah, for some reason he had to ask her permission. They had a brief sexual history that was years prior. I would never have felt comfortable dating him, and I don't know why he thought that it would've been appropriate.
Well, anyway, at first, our guy friend was mad because my friend said she didn't want him to ask me out, and she was also so apologetic to me when she finally told me about their conversations. Trying to keep this short......we patched things up (or so I thought) but I had felt that there was still some underlying resentment towards me from my friend. And, I never saw our guy friend after that..........like I wasn't allowed or something. Although, we were still talking through email. My friend was furious about that, so I stopped. For the year after that, my girl-friend and I rarely got together, and eventually I confronted her about that, all the while in the middle of a terrible heartbreak by some jerk. I needed her, and she ended our friendship after I finally spoke up. It really sucked for me because I just wanted to keep our group together. I wish he never said anything.
Now, I'm the one alone. It's really hard because I feel like I'm the bad person here. I thought my best friend would have chose me over some dumb guy. (we all found she was in love with him when this whole thing blew up, prior she had denied that she ever wanted to be with him....they were too different)
Well, this is already long, so I'll try to make my point. I've been dreaming about her almost everynight the past week. I've been dreaming that we make up, and are friends again. We were best friends since high school, and were more like sisters. I want to send her a letter or email, but I don't know what to say. Or, I don't even know if this friendship is truly over, and I should just move on. Anyone have any insight, or have gone through something similar, and what did you do? I actually really miss my friend soooooooo much, but I don't know if I can take getting hurt again.
Well, anyway, I've been thinking that I might want to contact an old friend who I haven't spoken to in almost a year. I'm not sure what to say though. I'm pretty sure we ended our friendship, but still don't understand why. I think it was a combination of me being depressed, and her feeling that I betrayed her, and a jealousy toward me. I'm sure I've talked about this here before, but I'll tell the short version.
She had a guy friend who wanted to ask me out on a formal date. (he had been my friend for awhile before he asked her if he could ask me out) Yeah, for some reason he had to ask her permission. They had a brief sexual history that was years prior. I would never have felt comfortable dating him, and I don't know why he thought that it would've been appropriate.
Well, anyway, at first, our guy friend was mad because my friend said she didn't want him to ask me out, and she was also so apologetic to me when she finally told me about their conversations. Trying to keep this short......we patched things up (or so I thought) but I had felt that there was still some underlying resentment towards me from my friend. And, I never saw our guy friend after that..........like I wasn't allowed or something. Although, we were still talking through email. My friend was furious about that, so I stopped. For the year after that, my girl-friend and I rarely got together, and eventually I confronted her about that, all the while in the middle of a terrible heartbreak by some jerk. I needed her, and she ended our friendship after I finally spoke up. It really sucked for me because I just wanted to keep our group together. I wish he never said anything.
Now, I'm the one alone. It's really hard because I feel like I'm the bad person here. I thought my best friend would have chose me over some dumb guy. (we all found she was in love with him when this whole thing blew up, prior she had denied that she ever wanted to be with him....they were too different)
Well, this is already long, so I'll try to make my point. I've been dreaming about her almost everynight the past week. I've been dreaming that we make up, and are friends again. We were best friends since high school, and were more like sisters. I want to send her a letter or email, but I don't know what to say. Or, I don't even know if this friendship is truly over, and I should just move on. Anyone have any insight, or have gone through something similar, and what did you do? I actually really miss my friend soooooooo much, but I don't know if I can take getting hurt again.