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boi

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When I use a "substance" I feel like I am in touch with my feelings. I am a softer person. Is this why I use it? Maybe I feel like this is the only way to be able to access my feelings?
Could this be true?
 

Banned

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Re: substance and feelings

Possibly...or do you use it to numb out your negative feelings, so you don't feel those and as a result only seem to feel the positive ones?

Is there another way you can be in touch with your feelings, apart from using?
 

boi

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Re: substance and feelings

I dont quite know. I dont think I numb out the negative ones but that is an interesting point you bring up. I haven't figured out how I can be in tune with my feelings in a "normal" state. I feel very closed off, uncomfortable and removed when it comes to feelings. Especially if my feelings are hurt. I am even very uncomfortable saying the word hurt.
 

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Re: substance and feelings

Well, I'm not sure what type of substance you're using, but if it's impacting your life and ability to function, you may want to look into a program to help you find other ways to achieve the same feelings, without using. I assume if you're starting CBT work soon that you will be working with a therapist, in which case, s/he can also help you with this.

Either way, I do hope you find some healthier ways to be in touch with your feelings. I know that I have a hard time as well with this. It's easier to feel nothing than to feel hurt, for me. Definitely something worth exploring down the road for you, though.
 

boi

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Re: substance and feelings

thanks turtle,
my substance usage is not impacting my life in the ability to function. I am actually doing very well right now and have been for the past 3 months. It is just something I will have to deal with eventually, something like you said I will want to explore
 
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