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Spent

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I guess I'm like everyone here, something is bothering me and no one close enough to bounce a thought. I am unemployed and too young to retire. For the past seven years I am spending what was saved for retirement on self employment because no company will offer a job to someone with my skills without a college degree. When did that become a law?

The first gig died after three years due to weak networking skills. Most of my business contacts retired and the area I supported dealt in classified material. They compensated me well enough to keep things going today. The following gig's compensation dropped to nothing and I had used all my skills to make it work. I offered to assist them for free in hope of their appreciation as they began to see positive results of my work. They are now selling the business and my efforts for compensation has failed.

As I waited this out I started another gig that is labor intensive. I now find that the large jobs are going unpaid or going in way under a fair bid. When I catch the mistake before I start, I end up still doing the work too the highest quality. When that happens I have already spent way more time than what is estimated. I find it impossible to confront them after the job is done. Sometimes I just walk away and they never call; no thank-you. Why should I feel unworthy of fair compensation for the work I provided?

I am very slowly improving my records to stop this decline. It is hard to find time when there are now a line people that have beat a path to my door.
 

Jazzey

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Hi Spent - and welcome to psychlinks :welcome:

I've read your post a couple of times now. I'm sorry for your recent experiences. That can be pretty demoralizing.

I guess I'm not sure how to respond to you post because I'm not sure if you're asking a question....
 

Spent

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Hi Spent - and welcome to psychlinks :welcome:

I've read your post a couple of times now. I'm sorry for your recent experiences. That can be pretty demoralizing.

I guess I'm not sure how to respond to you post because I'm not sure if you're asking a question....


You gave it to me, I do feel Demoralized and it is no way to conduct a successful business. I need to wash this crap off my feet so I don't stink up the next chance I get.
 
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Jazzey

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...Yup - I've been there Spent. And again, I'm sorry you're there right now. Have you taken a look around the forums a little? there are some really good articles and support systems.

This site is great for its support - a lot of warm people here. In the last few months (I became a member in November), it really helped me deal with my own *stuff*.

For starters - do you mind if I ask you if you're seeing a therapist of any kind? (don't answer if you're not comfortable)
 
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Spent

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No and no extra cash to offer them.. I gave threads a look and saw a few that are applicable. I'm new and never have been one quick to judge, so I'll keep looking until I find the dark spot that I need to see through.
 

Jazzey

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I gave threads a look and saw a few that are applicable.

If I can help you here Spent, I'll be happy to do this. Just let me know what you were thinking in terms of what could be of assistance.

And I think assertiveness training, as Daniel suggested, is also a good starting point.
 

Spent

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I went there straight off and saw a mix of a few issues that fit. I'm leaning more toward the Assertiveness thing. To me it's ugly but there is no way to thrive without it unless someone else it taking care of that for you.

I always worked for a company and their shaker-uppers. I have always been a mover and a problem solver. Now I have to do it all and it is not happening fast enough.
 

Jazzey

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No problem Spent - anytime. Feel free to let me know what direction you were thinking and I'll try and give you a hand as much as I can.

The best way to get some suggestions on the forum is to post a clear post (clear title on a new thread) in the appropriate forum. You'll get a lot of responses from various members that way....Then you won't be jaded by only one or two perspectives! ;) Have a good night.
 
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