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Bones

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There is something that has really been bothering me, I'm finding it hard to care about things in life in general,
and finding it hard to be motivated about anything or enjoy anything.

Its all because of a girl I met.

From the moment I met this girl I liked her very much and I know for sure that she liked me too, I know this because of how the conversation went, and we talked for a good amount of time.

Anyways, in summary, over time I screwed things up with her in many ways, before anything even got started, and I am feeling terrible about it and have painful regrets.

Basically because I am extremely shy and very sensitive, and have been alone for a long time and have little experience with women, I have had a very difficult time trying to get things going with her.

The main screw up was that I have said some things that I realize now have made me seem needy, desperate, strange and too serious, and now she will not talk to me and has blocked contact with me. She might now possibly think of me as a creep of some kind, but I am not at all. :mad: I just have difficulties interacting with people, and I am often misunderstood.
I am extremely disappointed. :(

Also I now think that I have had a self-fulfilling prophecy all along that I would screw it up, and I did screw up what I think could have been a very compatible relationship, and I am not an unrealistic thinker.

Now people could say that she is not the right one and the right person will come along, but I feel that the right person did come along, but I screwed it up by saying the wrong things and coming across as too serious.

I am having a lot of trouble forgetting about her. I can't believe it has ended this way, and I am pretty sure now that I will never talk to her or see her again. I am very disappointed with the outcome.

Sorry for the long post, I tried to make it as short and summarize as much as possible, but I feel it needs to be somewhat lengthy to explain.

Any insight, enlightenment, help, or suggestions to ease this disappointment would be greatly appreciated...
 

David Baxter PhD

Late Founder
In your lifetime, you will be attracted to many people who aren't attracted to you, and people will be attracted to you when you don't return the feelings. And sometimes, there will be an initial attraction which, for many reasons, will fade quickly for you or for the other person. This is all part of exploring intimate relationships.

You might be interested in a book I am re-reading at the moment: Journey of the Heart: The Path of Conscious Love, by John Welwood.

The author also has a website: John Welwood: Journey of the Heart: The Path of Conscious Love.
 
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