I have never been diagnosed with any disorder,but,i know that i have been through some traumatic times that have effected my mental health.
I read a lot and maybe the power of suggestion influences me somewhat,so that i think some disorders apply to me,BPD being the main one.
In the past i went through a very bad relationship in which both parties bahaved very badly toward one another,lots of drugs were involved and very bad accusations made...Police were involved!
One of the bad things that my partner falsely accused me of effected me in such a way that i suffered a mental breakdown,her accusations were detracted and all charges dropped,but rumours flowed none the less.
Now time has moved on,my ex has moved from my town,but still i`m affected.
I am a member of a gym and have been for three years now,i have quit drugs and drink in moderation now,i am so much healthier mentally and physically.
I enjoy using the spa and sauna at the facility and sometimes there are pretty young women that go there,i try and be friendly to most people as it is my nature.
Recently i have had some people who go there asking me probing questions,it`s only when i get home and relax that i refelct on those questions and some of them seem suspicious to me.
Then i notice a new member who tries to get my trust by being polite,but i recognise his face...He is a policeman.Another member who is fairly new comments on this new member and i tell him that i recognise that member as a police officer,the next thing is that the police man stops coming and the man that asked me about him starts to give me a wide berth.
Also i notice that two of the young women that use the spa who i have talked to have stopped coming,i`m noticing those glances off of people in the gym that are getting me really aggravated.
In my mind i think that some one has been purposefully spreding malicious rumours about me to try and make my life a misery.I`m trying to get on with my life,i`ve already been through hell,i`ve already suffered but still i find myself wanting to explian to people what happened in my past because i feel that many people only know the half of it,or have only heard what they want to.
I know what happened and that should be enough but it`s not...I have been told that i may be being paranoid but i honestly think that i`m not,i seem to be able to tell the difference these days,but are these just coincidences that i`m witnessing or is there something going on.
This is how my mind percieves the situation:I`m accused of rape by an ex girlfriend a few years ago,she drops charges the second day after making the accusation but still the damage is done.Rumours are spread in the small town i live in,the ex moves away and i`m left to take the flak,i join a gym and clean my act up.
I try to make new friends at the gym,i just so happen to make conversation to two young women a few weeks in a row down in the spa,then a police man comes to the gym and tries to be friendly to me,i recognise him as a police man,i tell this to a friend at the gym,police man stops coming,the friend starts avoiding me and the two young women stop going to the spa...When i say young i mean between 16 and 18,i`m 33.I`m aware of how certain situations and people can be percieved and i have been very careful but one cannot live a life being afraid of what people may think,but because of what has happened to me in my past it may be better if i trust no one and be totally insular in my life,but to me that would be a prison sentance.
I would like your opinions and advice on my current situation please.
I read a lot and maybe the power of suggestion influences me somewhat,so that i think some disorders apply to me,BPD being the main one.
In the past i went through a very bad relationship in which both parties bahaved very badly toward one another,lots of drugs were involved and very bad accusations made...Police were involved!
One of the bad things that my partner falsely accused me of effected me in such a way that i suffered a mental breakdown,her accusations were detracted and all charges dropped,but rumours flowed none the less.
Now time has moved on,my ex has moved from my town,but still i`m affected.
I am a member of a gym and have been for three years now,i have quit drugs and drink in moderation now,i am so much healthier mentally and physically.
I enjoy using the spa and sauna at the facility and sometimes there are pretty young women that go there,i try and be friendly to most people as it is my nature.
Recently i have had some people who go there asking me probing questions,it`s only when i get home and relax that i refelct on those questions and some of them seem suspicious to me.
Then i notice a new member who tries to get my trust by being polite,but i recognise his face...He is a policeman.Another member who is fairly new comments on this new member and i tell him that i recognise that member as a police officer,the next thing is that the police man stops coming and the man that asked me about him starts to give me a wide berth.
Also i notice that two of the young women that use the spa who i have talked to have stopped coming,i`m noticing those glances off of people in the gym that are getting me really aggravated.
In my mind i think that some one has been purposefully spreding malicious rumours about me to try and make my life a misery.I`m trying to get on with my life,i`ve already been through hell,i`ve already suffered but still i find myself wanting to explian to people what happened in my past because i feel that many people only know the half of it,or have only heard what they want to.
I know what happened and that should be enough but it`s not...I have been told that i may be being paranoid but i honestly think that i`m not,i seem to be able to tell the difference these days,but are these just coincidences that i`m witnessing or is there something going on.
This is how my mind percieves the situation:I`m accused of rape by an ex girlfriend a few years ago,she drops charges the second day after making the accusation but still the damage is done.Rumours are spread in the small town i live in,the ex moves away and i`m left to take the flak,i join a gym and clean my act up.
I try to make new friends at the gym,i just so happen to make conversation to two young women a few weeks in a row down in the spa,then a police man comes to the gym and tries to be friendly to me,i recognise him as a police man,i tell this to a friend at the gym,police man stops coming,the friend starts avoiding me and the two young women stop going to the spa...When i say young i mean between 16 and 18,i`m 33.I`m aware of how certain situations and people can be percieved and i have been very careful but one cannot live a life being afraid of what people may think,but because of what has happened to me in my past it may be better if i trust no one and be totally insular in my life,but to me that would be a prison sentance.
I would like your opinions and advice on my current situation please.