janetr said:Yes, that's it exactly. And you have felt that way too? It really stinks.
That's an understatement! I still irritate my bf because he has a hearing problem so I have to repeat myself. Well, if I have to repeat myself part of me is thinking that he's just not listening and then I flip out a little. It's silly but it's all a part of validation. Growing up I was told that I didn't feel something or that I shouldn't feel something or that I didn't even know what I was feeling.
[And it's so frustrating because I have such a strong desire to stop, but every few weeks I just lose it and cut myself or burn myself and then it seems it's all for nothing. Plus I'm already so scarred up I never wear short sleeves so no one sees and I figure what difference does it make anyway. But I'm not giving up. Every day that I DON'T do it is a small triumph, I suppose?
You are CORRECT! Sometimes you have to take it day by day. There's nothing wrong with that. You will get to the point where you're taking it week by week, month by month. You want to stop. That's the biggest obstacle to overcome. Well, along with triggers. :-/