why does my mom enjoy putting down my friends? it's one thing for her to put me down, and make me feel like crap, but why does she have to insult my friends? she tends to get in these moods where she's very sarcastics and blames me for everything and says that I don't ever admit I'm wrong, which is not true (the things I don't admit to she doesn't even know about.... and she's talking about other things) and that I'm always the perfect one (she thinks that I say that I am above everyone else- which I've never said!). she does this when she's mad or upset or hurt and at the most inapprporiate times ie. when I'm about to go out or leave for school or even have an exam.... I don't know why she does this. when I try to say something she'll say she doesn't want to talk about it or keeps on twisting everything I say and is very hostile and sarcastic. so no matter what I say or do I'm the "bad" one. She blames me for a lot of things and yet expects me to fix things whenever there's an issue (family wise etc.). Then she'll call me up to tell me "let's forget about things" after she just called to yell at me for no reason or made me feel like the last piece of dirt on earth. I don't just get upset when she does this, but I physically break down sometimes, I can't take her doing this anymore.... she almost waits for me to tell her about a problem w/ a friend only so that she can say how bad person "x" is, but they're still my friends and she's my mom so she should be supportive and not judge others only to make me feel more like crap. I didn't ask her for her opinion, they're my friends, not hers, they are good people but it's like whenever they do one little thing wrong, she calls them bad people right away. and she almost seems to be proud to say so. she remembers the bad things about my friends or my sister's friends only to pull those out whenever she can- but they're humans, and I have my faults and so does she. she wants me to trust her w/ telling her things and then as soon as she knows she take the opportunity to throw it in my face how "bad" they are, how "bad" I am..... I don't get why my own mother does this. she's really not that bad, only when she gets in her moments.... but it's so hurtful. I have no defense against her, no way out of feeling like absolute DIRT after these conversations.