A little about me

[BlueMoon]

Hi. I like this site and thought Id join. I am here looking for support and a place (well, I guess online its a pretty anonymous place) to talk about things that are going on.

After spending 16 yrs raising 6 kids, I am going back to work. I am grateful that I found a job (a good one!) in my field that pays decently. The major reason I am going though is because we have made (my husband and I) a mess of our finances over the years. I know with me it is a deeper issue. Cleaning out this mess has been just terrifying for me, but I am at the point where if I want to get well, there is no point to having these problems hanging over my head and working on everything else in therapy. I spent so many years not even being able to say the word money or open this door and now that I am going there I have to take it all one small step at a time. It is an overwhelming mess. I have a defaulted student loan from a million years ago and they want literally 25X the amount of money I owe them. I had to file for bankruptcy for credit card debt, but my husband cannot, so I have to negotiate with those credit cards. This is SO not easy! I have to go back to work, but since I am looking forward to this job, it isnt really a bad thing. But I will miss my kids and my youngest is 3. I am really scared about my husband handling EVERYTHING when I am at work because my family is so used to me doing every last little thing. He doesnt even know how to work the dishwasher or washing machine, no less how to feed them and get them where they have to be everyday. Im afraid it will be chaos in the house this summer. It has been a long process to learn how to budget and spend only what I can pay for. I either want to not think about it at all, or be compulsive about every penny and not turn on lights in the house to keep the electric bill down. I am so black and white, all or nothing.

I started medication (welbutrin and lexapro) about 1 yr ago and I believe it is the only reason I have strength to do this at all.

I could go on and on...sorry for being so long winded here. I have another question, though. How do I get to private messages? What do I click on?
And also, which would be the appropriate board to post this stuff on?
Thanks much for reading

 

[Banned]

Hi BlueMoon and welcome to Psychlinks.

For private messages, there are two ways to get to your Inbox. In the top right hand corner of the screen, there is the word "Notifications". You can get to your Inbox through there, or, alternatively, under the FAQ button towards the top left on your screen, you can click on "Private Messages". Both work.

And this is the perfect place to introduce yourself. If you're not sure of where to post other stuff, take a look through the different areas and see which seems most relevant. When in doubt, post to General Advice and Support. Nobody is going to scream too loudly if something isn't in the "right" place. We're pretty nice folk around here .

 

[BlueMoon]

I see it now. Thanks for telling me. I had been on a forum where my posts were moved around because it wasnt on topic. That was upsetting to me as I needed support from those who knew me and my story. That is why I asked. I feel like my issues are all related and I had a hard time splitting them up onto various boards.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Welcome to Psychlinks Forums, BlueMoon.

If you need any help navigating the forums, please let us know. You can also find information at the FAQ link in the top navigation bar and in the Forum Rules, also linked in the top navigation bar of any page.

If you're uncertain about where to post, General Support and Advice is a good starting point. Moderators and administrators may move threads to a more appropriate forum on occasion but we don't get cranky about it.