Personally, it's certainly helped me (haha, possibly even made me slightly arrogant).
I'm not sure if I'm doing it right, but I tend to make it a point to compliment myself. Instead of looking in the mirror every morning (or avoiding it) and thinking I'm ugly, stupid, blah blah blah.
I tell myself I'm gorgeous. I put on a teensy bit of makeup, I dress up in clothes I like, and I walk out to tell my boyfriend/roommate/cat/myself/whoever is in the living room about how gorgeous I am. Honestly, my cats are used to looking at me like I'm nutty.
When I'm in a situation where other people are yelling not nice things at me, I have developed this habit of sticking my chin up in the air and telling them they're mistaken, I *AM* intelligent, and beautiful, and a nice person to boot.
I think it works, but it definitely needs outside reinforcement: I was lucky in that I had other people tell me they love me and I'm gorgeous.
My problem was more that I felt unloveable. I didn't think anyone could love me at all for various reasons such as my being ugly, or stupid, or annoying etc.
I'm not sure if I'm doing it right, but I tend to make it a point to compliment myself. Instead of looking in the mirror every morning (or avoiding it) and thinking I'm ugly, stupid, blah blah blah.
I tell myself I'm gorgeous. I put on a teensy bit of makeup, I dress up in clothes I like, and I walk out to tell my boyfriend/roommate/cat/myself/whoever is in the living room about how gorgeous I am. Honestly, my cats are used to looking at me like I'm nutty.
When I'm in a situation where other people are yelling not nice things at me, I have developed this habit of sticking my chin up in the air and telling them they're mistaken, I *AM* intelligent, and beautiful, and a nice person to boot.
I think it works, but it definitely needs outside reinforcement: I was lucky in that I had other people tell me they love me and I'm gorgeous.
My problem was more that I felt unloveable. I didn't think anyone could love me at all for various reasons such as my being ugly, or stupid, or annoying etc.
