morpheus
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My girlfriend and I are having a problem. I have become aware that I have jealousy issues, but I don't think that it's all on my part.
This past weekend was the biggest episode we've had yet.
She went on a trip with some friends and this one friend in particular is the heart of the problem. He likes her alot and takes every oppertunity to get closer to her. She doesn't see it, but I do. Atleast I think I do. He took it upon himself to 'treat' her all weekend. He spent alot of money on her and I find that uncomfortable. She doesn't.
He also loves to hug her and tell her how beautiful she is and even stopped her one day while walking and held her chin and said, "Why do you have to be so god-damn sexy?". That was it for me and told her that she needs to put an end to his advances, but she doesn't think he is being over-bearing.
He even spent the weekend with his arm around her neck or walking arm-in-arm. Rubbing her feet and kissing her cheek (twice already he has 'slipped' and planted a quick & light kiss on her lips).
I have told him to cease his actions out of respect for me, since he does know of me and knows me on a face-to-face basis. He has met me on more than a few occasions. He agreed to back down and apologized, but when she noticed his actions had changed, she pressured him to tell her and he did. She then got mad at him for listening to me and said that he was her friend and to 'keep acting like it and get over it'. He then started all over again and almost bought her an expensive ring.
I am not comfortable with this because I feel threated by his money-status. I'm not wealthy, but I make a living. She has said that money is not something that she is impressed by. She says she loves me and that she'd rather have my love than the world's money. I think that is still true, but she does like expensive things: rings, ear-rings, clothes. She has never asked for me to buy them for her, even though I could at times.
What can I do? Am I justified? Or just being paranoid? This has happend in similar situations with other guys, but this is the most recent and so far the biggest. I have talked about counseling, but she is against it. She says she wants to keep our problem between us and not bring a total stranger into it. I'd like some advice if anyone has any. Thanks.
This past weekend was the biggest episode we've had yet.
She went on a trip with some friends and this one friend in particular is the heart of the problem. He likes her alot and takes every oppertunity to get closer to her. She doesn't see it, but I do. Atleast I think I do. He took it upon himself to 'treat' her all weekend. He spent alot of money on her and I find that uncomfortable. She doesn't.
He also loves to hug her and tell her how beautiful she is and even stopped her one day while walking and held her chin and said, "Why do you have to be so god-damn sexy?". That was it for me and told her that she needs to put an end to his advances, but she doesn't think he is being over-bearing.
He even spent the weekend with his arm around her neck or walking arm-in-arm. Rubbing her feet and kissing her cheek (twice already he has 'slipped' and planted a quick & light kiss on her lips).
I have told him to cease his actions out of respect for me, since he does know of me and knows me on a face-to-face basis. He has met me on more than a few occasions. He agreed to back down and apologized, but when she noticed his actions had changed, she pressured him to tell her and he did. She then got mad at him for listening to me and said that he was her friend and to 'keep acting like it and get over it'. He then started all over again and almost bought her an expensive ring.
I am not comfortable with this because I feel threated by his money-status. I'm not wealthy, but I make a living. She has said that money is not something that she is impressed by. She says she loves me and that she'd rather have my love than the world's money. I think that is still true, but she does like expensive things: rings, ear-rings, clothes. She has never asked for me to buy them for her, even though I could at times.
What can I do? Am I justified? Or just being paranoid? This has happend in similar situations with other guys, but this is the most recent and so far the biggest. I have talked about counseling, but she is against it. She says she wants to keep our problem between us and not bring a total stranger into it. I'd like some advice if anyone has any. Thanks.