My name is Cassie and I just joined this forum thinking to post a question on a specific non-personal topic of interest, but in retrospect there are numerous topics/discussions that I would love to engage in under the umbrella 'psychology'.
I am curious/analytical as blessing and curse (I think)... I think I have good insights, but am not so great at applying them to myself.
My first topic was not going to be a personal introduction, but frankly I do know that I am (very) depressed.. so, I'll be honest and state that here. I feel like I know what steps I should be taking, but am having a difficult time and fear that I am sabotaging myself. I'm a freelance graphic designer, which requires self-discipline.. and I think I am at a crossroads financially and in every way if I don't get some equilibrium. The creative in me.. that can/does thrive if "I'm my own boss" may need to fire herself pretty soon and get a structured job. IF I could afford it, I would be going to therapy, possibly request anti-depressants.. but I just can't right now. (That said, my inner advisor advises at least that I incorporate exercise and better diet, sleep schedule into the mix.)
Additionally, my elderly father has moved in locally with my brother and his wife, and a lot of issues have come up from this development. My dad needs some care, and I had planned and have tried (and try) to be involved, accessible, helpful in this situation, but sister-in-law issues "from hell" have arisen, that have thrown me for a loop... over-the-top. Frankly, I think all four of us could use some therapy but my SIL, from the day my (frail) dad has moved in has upstaged everything, (including concern for my dad) into a dysfunctional mess. Brother recently has convinced her to see a therapist (which she needs).. but he has been completely oblivious to how her behavior has been affecting me (my own sanity and well being). I could walk away, but MY Dad is there. I'm not looking for sympathy votes, but from my perspective I see my SIL has some "real" psychological problems, some feigned ones (she's admitted to me are "strategies'), and is a brat and troublemaker, being enabled by my brother.
Recently, I've had to take a much more hands-off approach.. which meant not coming over at Christmas as family event... but visiting my Dad, separately.. the day after, when bro and SIL were gone. A total shame. The whole situation is frustrating, and I have been so angry at my SIL for creating a toxic environment and not respecting the situation and deep feelings involved. I could write a book here... about how I've tried to offer solutions, "be" a provider of solutions, etc. And ironically, on the term "sabotage".. While I'm pretty good at sabotaging myself, SIL.. I believe is adept at sabotaging peace, family bonds and cooperative dialog. I labeled her metaphorically, "terrorist". Thankfully I have been able to discuss with my sister, but the situation just 'sucks'... I hope SIL gets some help, and Lord knows.. I hope I do, too.
Sorry for the long post. Thank you for listening and this forum. I hope 2013 brings some positive insights, healing and energy.
I am curious/analytical as blessing and curse (I think)... I think I have good insights, but am not so great at applying them to myself.
My first topic was not going to be a personal introduction, but frankly I do know that I am (very) depressed.. so, I'll be honest and state that here. I feel like I know what steps I should be taking, but am having a difficult time and fear that I am sabotaging myself. I'm a freelance graphic designer, which requires self-discipline.. and I think I am at a crossroads financially and in every way if I don't get some equilibrium. The creative in me.. that can/does thrive if "I'm my own boss" may need to fire herself pretty soon and get a structured job. IF I could afford it, I would be going to therapy, possibly request anti-depressants.. but I just can't right now. (That said, my inner advisor advises at least that I incorporate exercise and better diet, sleep schedule into the mix.)
Additionally, my elderly father has moved in locally with my brother and his wife, and a lot of issues have come up from this development. My dad needs some care, and I had planned and have tried (and try) to be involved, accessible, helpful in this situation, but sister-in-law issues "from hell" have arisen, that have thrown me for a loop... over-the-top. Frankly, I think all four of us could use some therapy but my SIL, from the day my (frail) dad has moved in has upstaged everything, (including concern for my dad) into a dysfunctional mess. Brother recently has convinced her to see a therapist (which she needs).. but he has been completely oblivious to how her behavior has been affecting me (my own sanity and well being). I could walk away, but MY Dad is there. I'm not looking for sympathy votes, but from my perspective I see my SIL has some "real" psychological problems, some feigned ones (she's admitted to me are "strategies'), and is a brat and troublemaker, being enabled by my brother.
Recently, I've had to take a much more hands-off approach.. which meant not coming over at Christmas as family event... but visiting my Dad, separately.. the day after, when bro and SIL were gone. A total shame. The whole situation is frustrating, and I have been so angry at my SIL for creating a toxic environment and not respecting the situation and deep feelings involved. I could write a book here... about how I've tried to offer solutions, "be" a provider of solutions, etc. And ironically, on the term "sabotage".. While I'm pretty good at sabotaging myself, SIL.. I believe is adept at sabotaging peace, family bonds and cooperative dialog. I labeled her metaphorically, "terrorist". Thankfully I have been able to discuss with my sister, but the situation just 'sucks'... I hope SIL gets some help, and Lord knows.. I hope I do, too.
Sorry for the long post. Thank you for listening and this forum. I hope 2013 brings some positive insights, healing and energy.