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[Yuray]

Are you having, or ever had, anyone address your Aspergers Syndrome?

 

[Retired]

Excellent question, Yuray.

For the benefit of BlueCrystal and others who may be interested in learning more about Asperger Syndrome, Psychlinks has these two resources:

What is Asperger Syndrome

Asperger An Overview

And the Mayo Clinic has this information on AS

I'll be looking forward to hear BC's comments on how he is dealing with his Asperger.

 

[forgetmenot]

Welcome Blue Crystal lots of information here and people who can guide you take care mary

 

[BlueCrystal]

Are you having, or ever had, anyone address your Aspergers Syndrome?

My parents have said that I had "touches" of asperger when I was kid, I took everything literary, I was very obsessed in things, also I needed many breaks when I did something.
However, according to them, my asperger is mostly gone today since they worked so hard to support me in my growth (and also since I had a not so strong asperger, evidently).

When I was around 15 years old, before I would get into the upper secondary school, my parents was recommended to take me to a doctor, because a diagnos can be good to have in school. My mother don't really like diagnosis because she thinks that a "person is just as he is", and don't think personalitys should be diagnosed.

Anyway, at the doctor, he said after some tests that I have more or less asperger, but he was very surprised that I had handled it so good through the years (I think I have my parents to thank about that).
Still, I'm not sure what he really wrote in my diagnos, I'm pretty sure it says something about asperger, but not every detail (still I haven't found it).

Anyway, I guess I'm a person with a mild Asperger today (but it still seems very strong in some situations and cases).

I'll be looking forward to hear BC's comments on how he is dealing with his Asperger.

Well, today, the asperger tendencies I have is:

- I have very one-sided interests
- Problems/difficulty with reading and math
- Uncomfortable in social situations, also I don't really know how I should act in some social situations (if a person is joking or trying to be funny, I'm not sure how I should act and answer), as well I'm very shy.
- Difficulty with eye-contact
- I get easily fascinated/obsessed in things
- I easily create phobias and have some sort of anxiety I guess
- I talk a lot, and like talking about one subject (One-sided conversations).
- I'm nostalgic and is somewhat uncomfortable with changes, but I would not say that I'm always like this.

But...

- I don't lack common sense
- No problems with gestures/facial expressions
- No clumsy movements
- I have normal speech (I think)
- I do not lack empathy (even if I sometimes can find it hard to know when I should stop joking with a friends, since it may end up as picking).
- I do not take things literary anymore (I understand them, but still I have an urge to remark on them, hehe)


You know... I'm still unsure actually how much asperger I have today, and if it's really counts as asperger.

 

[Retired]

My mother don't really like diagnosis because she thinks that a "person is just as he is", and don't think personalitys should be diagnosed

Perhaps, but if certain behaviours or thoughts affect your quality of life or make you dysfunctional, there might be treatments or modifications that only a mental health professional can provide.

As a twenty one year old adult, you cannot allow your life to be influenced by your mother's attitudes toward your own health care, and if you feel you are not functioning at the level you would like to be, then it is up to you and you alone to take the necessary steps to make those changes.

Regardless of what diagnosis you received when you were 15, you would need to be evaluated on your own, now as an adult. With that information and the options offered to you by your doctors, you can make decisions on what to do. Without proper information, you cannot make a proper plan for your future.

As an adult responsible for your own health care, and it is up to you to take the initiative, as you have done here, to gather information.

The next step would be to act on the information you receive.

 

[BlueCrystal]

Well the best I can do now is try to actually go out and do things, as more I'm just sitting at home as more anxiety I get and other problems since I'm isolated, and as more anxiety I get as harder it will be to go out, it's like a vicious circle.


I have been out pretty much the last days (at least much to be me)... since I have been thinking about this. I have been at my friends work and helped him a bit, I have helped my sister a bit in a stable another day.. it's a good step to be used to the big, dangerous world outside.

But when it comes to eating food, I just can't eat sometimes. It's nothing I can do something about. Like today when my family was invited out for dinner, I couldn't eat my whole portion, which is very annoying when it happens, specially when it's tasty food... lol.


I had a job 1 year ago (only worked there 1 month since I didn't managed it), there this could be a real problem since I couldn't eat sometimes when it was lunch, and without lunch I can't work as good as I should do.

Sometimes I wonder... what the hell is wrong with me?


Well anyway thanks for the suggestions and info here, it's appreciated.