I don't know what to do...

[hiddenblueeyez]

Hello All,
Last night my father in law passed away. My husband is broken and torn and I can tell, today was the first time I've ever seen him cry, for about a minute then he went right back to joking about everything. And I feel like I'm no help at all. I seem to be a hystarical ball and he doesn't seem to be allowing himself to cope at all. Maybe thats normal, I don't know. Anyone have any ideas.

 

[Mari]

Grief - Psychlinks Psychology Self-Help & Mental Health Support Forum

H! hiddenblueeyez. There are some posts and articles in the Grief section of the forum that might be helpful. Everyone expresses grief in their own way and in their own time. I tend to be like you, an hysterical ball, while I find most other people to be much more reserved in their expression of grief. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you and your husband can support each other and talk about your feelings. :heart: Mari

 

[Meggylou]

it may take time for him to really deal with this as well. I tend not to cry when I find out, I cry later.
For my grandma I cried when I was at the wake, she looks so beautiful and healthy again after her death from a long cancer battle where she looks so frail.
My grandpa I cried when we got to the town and into the hotel room, I just poured the tears out and screamed. And cried for the next two days straight.
It's a personal difference between people.
It's okay that you are feeling it so quickly. Give your husband time. Also as suggested read some of the advice that is posted on the forum.
I'm so sorry for your loss.