I want to leave my job

[banda]

I want to leave my job to pursue a profession that has no guarantees of working out.

My current job leaves me crying, anxious and stressed. It's not the way I want to be. I don't think I'll be able to handle it for too long.

Should I take the leap into, literally, the unknown?


Thank you for reading.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Welcome to Psychlinks, banda.

It's definitely no fun feeling trapped in a job you dislike. On the other hand, we all have to pay the rent and buy food. What is the profession you want to pursue and what would you do to support yourself while you explore it?

 

[ladylore]

Hi Banda,
Welcome to Psychlinks.

 

[healthbound]

Hey banda, welcome to psychlinks.

Is there a way you could keep your current job while transitioning to the new one?

Alternatively, what about leaving your current job on good terms so that it is still there for you as a back up if the new one doesn't work out?

 

[suewatters1]

Hi Banda I am in the same position. I might have to leave my one and only job of 24 years also that pays all my bills and pays my medications. Otherwise if I don't I might be at high risk to harm myself.
One of my current counselors suggested vocational assessment for me where they help find me a job and help transitioning me to a new job with coaching for my ADHD and they would shadow me after I start a new job so that I won't feel so alone and scared. But I can only do that if I can find a job with near the same pay I am making now and some benefits.

Sue

 

[Halo]

Hi Banda and welcome to Psychlinks :welcome2:

 

[banda]

Thank you to everyone who has posted.

The career I want to go into - which I am already partially involved in - is in the music industry. Ideally, I would keep my current job while trying to work my way into the music business. But my current job is weighing on me. Getting up in the morning to face the day takes a an effort. And I don't want to wake up feeling like that every day. It is a high-stress job, similar to one I had in the past and left after one year because it became unsustainable. In every aspect, but specially emotionally.

I suppose my hope would be to find a job which would be "tolerable". Something that would pay my bills while the music thing is still progressing, but which wouldn't leave me feeling like an emotional wreck.

I thought for a long time, having had a history of depression, that this reaction was about me. It is, in part. Perhaps I am someone who isn't strong enough. But I also feel it is about the job. That not everyone is up to facing a high-stress job. And that it is not a failure on my part. That I am not less than, but just someone who knows their limitations and who wants to be able to take care of themselves - financially, professionally and emotionally.

Leaving this job - if that happens in the end - would be a confirmation in the eyes of my parents, and others that I am not "mature" enough to stay in the same job, that I am going after some fantasy wanting to work in the music business. That I am not grounded, nor serious about a profession when in fact, that is exactly what I am going after.

I just want this feeling of sadness to end. I want to feel better.

 

[Into The Light]

it is really hard to try and not let others' expectations and beliefs get to us. but in the end this is your life and you are the one who has to live it. i hope that in time you will be able to make the decision that is right for you, despite what their beliefs are going to be.