I am sure that I am not alone in making a bunch of resolutions at the beginning of a new year. I used to do this quite often.
1. Lose x amount of pounds
2. Pay all my bills on time.
3. Go on a holiday... etc and Yep, I have said many times I would quit smoking by the end of the year and although I now only smoke about 7 smokes a day, I am still addicted to nicotine. So what is a person to do? Not make any resolutions?
Let me make a few suggestions and I would like to hear what you do with this problem or dilemma.
First the problem:
When we make a promise to you, and then do not follow through with that promise, we let our self down. We can even become depressed over the breaking of our own word. This is especially true if we verbalize that promise to someone else, write it on a chart and put it up by the bathroom mirror or something like that. But no matter what, if we wake up Jan. 1 with the resolve to follow through with a set of resolutions, and when Dec. 31 rolls around again at the end of any given year with the resolutions having not been met, we will experience disappointment if not down right depression. So, be realistic.
Instead of saying I am going to quit smoking and loose 30 pounds, go for a mile walk every day and turn into a vegetarian, say. I am going to try and live a healthier life style. That is easy to keep, well easier anyway.
Instead of saying I am going to spend at least 8 hours a week of quality time with my children or significant other, say. I will make my family, loved ones and parents my priority for my spare time.
If you will try to abide by these principals, you will become a principle-oriented person and they know where they are going. They are the ones who may allow you to come in with muddy shoes even though they have a clean house most of the time. They are the ones who can still go out and have a good time with friends and still have a healthy lifestyle overall. They are the ones who will spend more time with their loved ones and still make it to work on time, have time for themselves and be more efficient with everything they do.
I consider myself to be very fortunate. I had a very strict religious mother and a very principle oriented father, (who are both still alive today). Mom would be very upset with me as a teenager for coming in late, or smelling of alcohol or tobacco. Dad was equally disappointed but he didn't show it in anger, he would urge me to try getting home 5 min. earlier the next night and cutting back on my bad habits. Together, my parents were very balanced in their approach with life.
So take a look at the "big picture" this year as you make goals for yourself. Make realistic goals and follow your heart.
Happy New Year all.
I would like to know how you handle or make resolutions.
1. Lose x amount of pounds
2. Pay all my bills on time.
3. Go on a holiday... etc and Yep, I have said many times I would quit smoking by the end of the year and although I now only smoke about 7 smokes a day, I am still addicted to nicotine. So what is a person to do? Not make any resolutions?
Let me make a few suggestions and I would like to hear what you do with this problem or dilemma.
First the problem:
When we make a promise to you, and then do not follow through with that promise, we let our self down. We can even become depressed over the breaking of our own word. This is especially true if we verbalize that promise to someone else, write it on a chart and put it up by the bathroom mirror or something like that. But no matter what, if we wake up Jan. 1 with the resolve to follow through with a set of resolutions, and when Dec. 31 rolls around again at the end of any given year with the resolutions having not been met, we will experience disappointment if not down right depression. So, be realistic.
Instead of saying I am going to quit smoking and loose 30 pounds, go for a mile walk every day and turn into a vegetarian, say. I am going to try and live a healthier life style. That is easy to keep, well easier anyway.
Instead of saying I am going to spend at least 8 hours a week of quality time with my children or significant other, say. I will make my family, loved ones and parents my priority for my spare time.
If you will try to abide by these principals, you will become a principle-oriented person and they know where they are going. They are the ones who may allow you to come in with muddy shoes even though they have a clean house most of the time. They are the ones who can still go out and have a good time with friends and still have a healthy lifestyle overall. They are the ones who will spend more time with their loved ones and still make it to work on time, have time for themselves and be more efficient with everything they do.
I consider myself to be very fortunate. I had a very strict religious mother and a very principle oriented father, (who are both still alive today). Mom would be very upset with me as a teenager for coming in late, or smelling of alcohol or tobacco. Dad was equally disappointed but he didn't show it in anger, he would urge me to try getting home 5 min. earlier the next night and cutting back on my bad habits. Together, my parents were very balanced in their approach with life.
So take a look at the "big picture" this year as you make goals for yourself. Make realistic goals and follow your heart.
Happy New Year all.
I would like to know how you handle or make resolutions.
