braveheart
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I'd appreciate some help untangling this.
There's two major factors that are leaving me feeling somewhat 'homeless' in the internet forum world.
One being that my presenting factors aren't what fit into the 'typical' groups
- My symptoms are a complex mix of things. For a start I have a lot of dissociative issues, but I don't have DID. Nor do I have the typical background of someone presenting on a DID/dissociation forum - I've never been sexually abused, nor suffered ritual abuse.
I have borderline traits, but borderline based forums are unhealthy for me, surrounded as they are with usually pretty extreme dysfunctional behaviours which can trigger me rather than make me feel connected.
I suffer from anxiety, but ditto to that - spending some time on an anxiety forum recently triggered health anxiety, something which I'd mostly recovered from.
I rarely self harm - and when I do, what I do is 'mild' compared to cutting, and I certainly have never overdosed, and I'm certainly no longer a teenager, even though I may feel like one at times, due to past abuse.
I don't abuse substances - never touched alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.
I have social anxiety, but have found my issues/threads sidelined and ignored on social anxiety forums.
I see a complementary health practitioner alongside my psychotherapy and conventional medical treatment. It really is helping to shift some deeply entrenched patterns that have been around for years. Not everyone agrees with this, I know, but it works for me, so great. But the kind of forums for this I find ungrounded.
And, on the other hand, very orthodox medical based forums I find too restrictive and
I'm at a point in my recovery, a turning point, where I find abuse survivor communities unhealthy for me, for the most part. Recent interactions on such a forum have really made it clear to me how entrenched in and feeding of the victim mindset they are. And, whilst this appeals to part of my mind, for the most part, I see how this is really unhelpful for me. I've reached a point where I can be compassionate and understanding of the mind states of my abusers, having seen reflections in myself. I'm aware of the tragic spiral which is the abuse dynamic, and abusers aren't a separate species, aren't monsters - although their behaviour may be monstrous at times, true. But they are not sub humans. And victims aren't the chosen race, or perfect. Life just isn't that black and white.
I'm a writer - as yet not published, but online writing forums are very unfriendly places, and not respecters of the vulnerable in any way shape or form.
As I become more social, after decades of isolation, I find online forums valuable in - apart from getting me through difficulties in between therapy sessions - helping me practice social skills, assertiveness, and keeping my mind active.
For some time I've had periods where one or two forums have been my online 'home' but once again, like a while ago, I'm hopping between 4 or 5 forums as one satisfy my needs on their own. This may be a good thing, but.. it feels very disparate.
I did start my own forum, for abuse survivors to express themselves and find their voice through creativity. It had a good start, but it's faded now as those small forums do.
So, I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts, personal experiences....
Thanks...
There's two major factors that are leaving me feeling somewhat 'homeless' in the internet forum world.
One being that my presenting factors aren't what fit into the 'typical' groups
- My symptoms are a complex mix of things. For a start I have a lot of dissociative issues, but I don't have DID. Nor do I have the typical background of someone presenting on a DID/dissociation forum - I've never been sexually abused, nor suffered ritual abuse.
I have borderline traits, but borderline based forums are unhealthy for me, surrounded as they are with usually pretty extreme dysfunctional behaviours which can trigger me rather than make me feel connected.
I suffer from anxiety, but ditto to that - spending some time on an anxiety forum recently triggered health anxiety, something which I'd mostly recovered from.
I rarely self harm - and when I do, what I do is 'mild' compared to cutting, and I certainly have never overdosed, and I'm certainly no longer a teenager, even though I may feel like one at times, due to past abuse.
I don't abuse substances - never touched alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.
I have social anxiety, but have found my issues/threads sidelined and ignored on social anxiety forums.
I see a complementary health practitioner alongside my psychotherapy and conventional medical treatment. It really is helping to shift some deeply entrenched patterns that have been around for years. Not everyone agrees with this, I know, but it works for me, so great. But the kind of forums for this I find ungrounded.
And, on the other hand, very orthodox medical based forums I find too restrictive and
I'm at a point in my recovery, a turning point, where I find abuse survivor communities unhealthy for me, for the most part. Recent interactions on such a forum have really made it clear to me how entrenched in and feeding of the victim mindset they are. And, whilst this appeals to part of my mind, for the most part, I see how this is really unhelpful for me. I've reached a point where I can be compassionate and understanding of the mind states of my abusers, having seen reflections in myself. I'm aware of the tragic spiral which is the abuse dynamic, and abusers aren't a separate species, aren't monsters - although their behaviour may be monstrous at times, true. But they are not sub humans. And victims aren't the chosen race, or perfect. Life just isn't that black and white.
I'm a writer - as yet not published, but online writing forums are very unfriendly places, and not respecters of the vulnerable in any way shape or form.
As I become more social, after decades of isolation, I find online forums valuable in - apart from getting me through difficulties in between therapy sessions - helping me practice social skills, assertiveness, and keeping my mind active.
For some time I've had periods where one or two forums have been my online 'home' but once again, like a while ago, I'm hopping between 4 or 5 forums as one satisfy my needs on their own. This may be a good thing, but.. it feels very disparate.
I did start my own forum, for abuse survivors to express themselves and find their voice through creativity. It had a good start, but it's faded now as those small forums do.
So, I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts, personal experiences....
Thanks...