Hi All,
I'm feeling scared about my therapy relationship. I have just made the transition from seeing my therapist through the national health system to seeing her privately and I wasn't expecting to have to sign a contract and I'm not happy about some of the things in it. She says that she is going to take 10 weeks holiday per year (which I find quite alarming) and that I am only allowed to take 4 weeks and if I take more than that, she will charge me for it!!! I find that really unreasonable. Not that I'll need any more time off than that, but why should she have so much holiday and me so little?
She also emphasized how this is her business and her livelihood etc. and I felt almost offended as it sounded as if it's firstly about the money and secondly about the client. I asked her if I could pay her monthly (I meant paying upfront for the next month) and she said no, in case people run off without paying. And again I felt almost offended at her answer.
I have been seeing her for 2 years and she has been really kind to me and I have seen her as a mother figure and feel quite dependent. The problem is that now I feel resentful of her contract and I feel intimidated that I am on her territory, in her house and I have just found her to be quite harsh, which she never was before. Now I'm feeling wary of her and like I don't trust her like I used to. And if I lose this therapy, I'm going to be stuck with all my dependency issues to deal with on my own. I'm terrified now. I never thought I would get into a situation like this but I feel like I can't leave because I feel too attached and I crave the nice things she has said to me in the past but on the other hand I feel so intimidated and wary now that I'm wondering if it can really work.
Anyone had anything similar? Any advice would be really gratefully received.
Thanks for listening,
Poss
I'm feeling scared about my therapy relationship. I have just made the transition from seeing my therapist through the national health system to seeing her privately and I wasn't expecting to have to sign a contract and I'm not happy about some of the things in it. She says that she is going to take 10 weeks holiday per year (which I find quite alarming) and that I am only allowed to take 4 weeks and if I take more than that, she will charge me for it!!! I find that really unreasonable. Not that I'll need any more time off than that, but why should she have so much holiday and me so little?
She also emphasized how this is her business and her livelihood etc. and I felt almost offended as it sounded as if it's firstly about the money and secondly about the client. I asked her if I could pay her monthly (I meant paying upfront for the next month) and she said no, in case people run off without paying. And again I felt almost offended at her answer.
I have been seeing her for 2 years and she has been really kind to me and I have seen her as a mother figure and feel quite dependent. The problem is that now I feel resentful of her contract and I feel intimidated that I am on her territory, in her house and I have just found her to be quite harsh, which she never was before. Now I'm feeling wary of her and like I don't trust her like I used to. And if I lose this therapy, I'm going to be stuck with all my dependency issues to deal with on my own. I'm terrified now. I never thought I would get into a situation like this but I feel like I can't leave because I feel too attached and I crave the nice things she has said to me in the past but on the other hand I feel so intimidated and wary now that I'm wondering if it can really work.
Anyone had anything similar? Any advice would be really gratefully received.
Thanks for listening,
Poss