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Hello.
I suppose Frequent readers have read my story. Maybe some even think i'm getting a bit irritating (apologies in advance). I have been out of a 3 month relationship almost 2 months ago. Since then i have been experiencing intense grief. Of course my appetite and sleep are influenced (as they are whenever i face any stressfull situation thats SO annoying) but not in a level that is dangerous for my health. I can still sleep for 7 hours at nights and eat breakfast/lunch/dinner. Not with great appetite though.
My main physical problems focus at the morning time. At the moment i wake up, just 10 seconds after, my Ex comes in mind. I am still trying to revive, explain, blame (myself or her) about how things went, think of a "mental exit plan" that will allow me to say "It's not my fault. I tried. The thing wasn't going to work anyway". My stomach gets stressed and i have no appetite at all for like an hour. Slowly as day passes, i get better and better. At night i feel the most relaxed, although i am still thinking of her constantly.
Recently, i read a REALLY interesting and REALLY helpful book at Psychological Self-Help - Table of Contents (its freely available for download as pdf).
I have reasons to believe that my current "blues" state was existent even before i met my Ex girlfriend. It's just that the loss of her triggered it. I was actually afraid that this would happen some day thats why i was avoiding to bond with girls or i was trying to end relationships "safely".
Some of my thoughts about why i think i have depression are:
1. i find most of my friends boring.
2. i find most of the activities boring, unless i have some strong motivation to do them.That motivation is usually a girlfriend and a girlfriend only (for example, work out to have more beautiful body).
3. i find my house, my life, my country, environment, BORING
Since i have broken up, i didn't have the mood to travel or go somewhere or change scenery. Maybe i didn't have the possiblity also.
I think that some root of my problems lie in the fact that i always wanted to live alone, travel abroad and gain experiences.
Now, within 2-3 weeks, i have the opportunity to study abroad, so most of my wishes will come true. I think that this radical change of country will help me. On the other hand, what scares me is that i will be there alone, so i feel more "vulnerable". I don't have my parents to help me if something goes wrong. it sounds SO stupid but maybe i'm depended on them subconsiously. I have always lived with my folks and i'm 25 yrs old.
I am constantly thinking that if i went abroad, i'd like to meet a girl and move in with her. So, in a way, i want to live "alone", but it's like i'm replacing my folks with a woman, isn't it?
Is that "wrong" per say? Since the last 2 years i always wanted to have a passionate love leading to a long-term relationship. A woman by my side. I was fixated about that. My whole life maybe was about that.
You can imagine what that means from the moment i broke up with my ex. It's like i'm down to zero again. or even lower.
ps: many thoughts and long post... sorry.. but it feels nice to open up.
ps2: recently i discovered it feels nice to help others also..nice feeling.
I suppose Frequent readers have read my story. Maybe some even think i'm getting a bit irritating (apologies in advance). I have been out of a 3 month relationship almost 2 months ago. Since then i have been experiencing intense grief. Of course my appetite and sleep are influenced (as they are whenever i face any stressfull situation thats SO annoying) but not in a level that is dangerous for my health. I can still sleep for 7 hours at nights and eat breakfast/lunch/dinner. Not with great appetite though.
My main physical problems focus at the morning time. At the moment i wake up, just 10 seconds after, my Ex comes in mind. I am still trying to revive, explain, blame (myself or her) about how things went, think of a "mental exit plan" that will allow me to say "It's not my fault. I tried. The thing wasn't going to work anyway". My stomach gets stressed and i have no appetite at all for like an hour. Slowly as day passes, i get better and better. At night i feel the most relaxed, although i am still thinking of her constantly.
Recently, i read a REALLY interesting and REALLY helpful book at Psychological Self-Help - Table of Contents (its freely available for download as pdf).
I have reasons to believe that my current "blues" state was existent even before i met my Ex girlfriend. It's just that the loss of her triggered it. I was actually afraid that this would happen some day thats why i was avoiding to bond with girls or i was trying to end relationships "safely".
Some of my thoughts about why i think i have depression are:
1. i find most of my friends boring.
2. i find most of the activities boring, unless i have some strong motivation to do them.That motivation is usually a girlfriend and a girlfriend only (for example, work out to have more beautiful body).
3. i find my house, my life, my country, environment, BORING
Since i have broken up, i didn't have the mood to travel or go somewhere or change scenery. Maybe i didn't have the possiblity also.
I think that some root of my problems lie in the fact that i always wanted to live alone, travel abroad and gain experiences.
Now, within 2-3 weeks, i have the opportunity to study abroad, so most of my wishes will come true. I think that this radical change of country will help me. On the other hand, what scares me is that i will be there alone, so i feel more "vulnerable". I don't have my parents to help me if something goes wrong. it sounds SO stupid but maybe i'm depended on them subconsiously. I have always lived with my folks and i'm 25 yrs old.
I am constantly thinking that if i went abroad, i'd like to meet a girl and move in with her. So, in a way, i want to live "alone", but it's like i'm replacing my folks with a woman, isn't it?
Is that "wrong" per say? Since the last 2 years i always wanted to have a passionate love leading to a long-term relationship. A woman by my side. I was fixated about that. My whole life maybe was about that.
You can imagine what that means from the moment i broke up with my ex. It's like i'm down to zero again. or even lower.
ps: many thoughts and long post... sorry.. but it feels nice to open up.
ps2: recently i discovered it feels nice to help others also..nice feeling.