healthbound
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Tomorrow (well, technically today) is my sister's death date. I'm sad.
It's been several years since she died and it is still overwhelmingly sad sometimes. Every year is a little different. This year I still an increase in anxiety and had dreams but the anxiety was less and the dreams were different. The dreams morphed into reoccurring ones I have about the house we lived in as teenagers (usually I will get gory nightmares for a few weeks before her death date). Even though the dreams still suck, I think it's a good thing they are changing.
Anyway, I just wanted to write a quick note here because I can. I've talked about her here and so I know I can also talk about being sad. Not exactly sure why I don't feel like I can talk freely about my sadness to other people ---or why I seem to think I need her death date to feel it, but it is what it is. And after having said that, I even feel awkward writing this.
Maybe I just wanted to tell someone that I feel sad. Somehow seems to honor my sadness and seems to honor her. Sucks that she's gone and the people in my life don't even really know she existed. Seems strange since she's such a big part of me (for right or for wrong).
I've got my therapist appointment first thing tomorrow then a couple of other appointments. After those I'll head up to her grave and spend some time with her. Being at her grave is actually very grounding for me. Sad...but grounding.
Anyway, here's to you Frog, :flowers:
It's been several years since she died and it is still overwhelmingly sad sometimes. Every year is a little different. This year I still an increase in anxiety and had dreams but the anxiety was less and the dreams were different. The dreams morphed into reoccurring ones I have about the house we lived in as teenagers (usually I will get gory nightmares for a few weeks before her death date). Even though the dreams still suck, I think it's a good thing they are changing.
Anyway, I just wanted to write a quick note here because I can. I've talked about her here and so I know I can also talk about being sad. Not exactly sure why I don't feel like I can talk freely about my sadness to other people ---or why I seem to think I need her death date to feel it, but it is what it is. And after having said that, I even feel awkward writing this.
Maybe I just wanted to tell someone that I feel sad. Somehow seems to honor my sadness and seems to honor her. Sucks that she's gone and the people in my life don't even really know she existed. Seems strange since she's such a big part of me (for right or for wrong).
I've got my therapist appointment first thing tomorrow then a couple of other appointments. After those I'll head up to her grave and spend some time with her. Being at her grave is actually very grounding for me. Sad...but grounding.
Anyway, here's to you Frog, :flowers: