BluMac81
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So I recently bought a house in Denver and moved there, hoping to improve my life after my sister moved out. When I started my home search, I told myself that once I get settled in Denver, than I will become more socially active, because I had gradually stopped going to all social events and school ended for me so I was pretty shut in. And now, here I am settled in this new house, and social anxiety has me locked in like I'm it's prisoner. One thing I know is that the longer I shut myself in without going to social things, the more difficult going out and doing social things becomes. There are so many ways I want to get involved with the community, to have a life for once, get a girlfriend and some friends, attend the sporting events I like (playing tennis, etc.) and all that; but right now I am just struggling with things like going shopping at walgreens, safeway, and wal-mart, I get so tense like everyone is watching me, and I feel so inferior to everyone, even jealous about those who have girlfriends and appear confident and all that (and that jealousy, aka envy, is something I need to stop now, as I am a christian and envy is a sin).
I would say that the psychological help that I am receiving is basically non-existent. I do take an SNRI, Effexor, at a rather high dosage twice a day, and I take about 6mg Xanax throughout the day (which is a lot, I know, I grew a tolerenace to it). I haven't had a therapy session in years, but I am trying to set that up in the new city I moved to, I just need to get myself to wake up early, which is a pain for me because I am extremely OCD about sleep habits and switching up my 12am bedtime 11am waking period is very difficult.
Life at the new house is fine otherwise, I just hate the feeling that I am not doing enough to "progress" in my life, and for me, progressing means overcoming social anxiety, so the question is, how do I get over it? Feel the fear and do it anyway? Yeah I read the book, it works a few times, but I guess I'm too weak to continually do it. What should I do? I feel like I have no life, and that I'm a loser and a bum for not having a job, and only taking one online class this semester... such a bumb I am... and leeching off the government like this with disability, I feel so bad. I really want to fulfill a purpose, help others, live life to it's fullest while serving God to the best of my ability, but I'm not even at square 1, I'm at square 0, since I still feel anxiety even just in going shopping. How am I supposed to live a fulfilling life like this? I keep telling myself though, it'll be gradual, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I will go out a little more every week, and eventually get a pattern of going out and making friends. But apparently that isn't good enough for me, the speed at which it is progressing, it's so slow I can't even tell if I'm going forward or backward.
I sometimes think that if I was to hit a deep depression, or a difficult sickness or grief, than I might get involved with others, like in support groups and such, but my god, there has to be a less painful way of motivating me! And it's not just because of people that I don't go out much, I just find the outside... boring, like taking nature hikes and going to the park... it all feels so boring, and the entire time I just want to go home. Maybe it's the generation I grew up with, multi-tasking several stimuli at once, and instant gratification via the internet.
Right now I am just stuck, and I need help getting 'un-stuck', by overcoming the first hurdle in getting over my social anxiety problems. Anyone have any suggestions?
I would say that the psychological help that I am receiving is basically non-existent. I do take an SNRI, Effexor, at a rather high dosage twice a day, and I take about 6mg Xanax throughout the day (which is a lot, I know, I grew a tolerenace to it). I haven't had a therapy session in years, but I am trying to set that up in the new city I moved to, I just need to get myself to wake up early, which is a pain for me because I am extremely OCD about sleep habits and switching up my 12am bedtime 11am waking period is very difficult.
Life at the new house is fine otherwise, I just hate the feeling that I am not doing enough to "progress" in my life, and for me, progressing means overcoming social anxiety, so the question is, how do I get over it? Feel the fear and do it anyway? Yeah I read the book, it works a few times, but I guess I'm too weak to continually do it. What should I do? I feel like I have no life, and that I'm a loser and a bum for not having a job, and only taking one online class this semester... such a bumb I am... and leeching off the government like this with disability, I feel so bad. I really want to fulfill a purpose, help others, live life to it's fullest while serving God to the best of my ability, but I'm not even at square 1, I'm at square 0, since I still feel anxiety even just in going shopping. How am I supposed to live a fulfilling life like this? I keep telling myself though, it'll be gradual, with the help of the Holy Spirit, I will go out a little more every week, and eventually get a pattern of going out and making friends. But apparently that isn't good enough for me, the speed at which it is progressing, it's so slow I can't even tell if I'm going forward or backward.
I sometimes think that if I was to hit a deep depression, or a difficult sickness or grief, than I might get involved with others, like in support groups and such, but my god, there has to be a less painful way of motivating me! And it's not just because of people that I don't go out much, I just find the outside... boring, like taking nature hikes and going to the park... it all feels so boring, and the entire time I just want to go home. Maybe it's the generation I grew up with, multi-tasking several stimuli at once, and instant gratification via the internet.
Right now I am just stuck, and I need help getting 'un-stuck', by overcoming the first hurdle in getting over my social anxiety problems. Anyone have any suggestions?