The Impact of a 'No Show': Keeping your Appointments

[ThatLady]

I guess I find myself somewhere in the middle. I'm never late. As a young person, I had a terrible time being on time. I was late everywhere. I guess I've overcompensated. Now, I'm always early and end up skulking around somewhere waiting for my time to do whatever it is I'm wherever I am to do.

It never bothers me if someone else is late, though. It doesn't even bother me if someone is a "no show" unless it's something really critical. Most of the time, I just figure something came up and go on about my business.

 

[Into The Light]

my opinion has changed after reading this thread and isn't so rigid anymore. thanks for all your thoughts

 

[just mary]

It still depends on the situation for me, it's relative. If I've planned dinner for people or we're meeting somewhere to eat and if someone isn't there on time - I/we go ahead without them, they can catch up, I don't feel bad or guilty.

I guess it bothers me if the person who is late, expects the world to wait for them and gets upset if we go ahead without them. I'm a timely person and I don't like to be late, if I have to put up with a late person, late people should have to put up me. It goes both ways.

Two of the most significant people in my life have been consistently late and I've learned to accept it. I've learned how to keep busy while waiting for them. I tell my husband 7:30 PM is the time we have to leave, when we don't have to leave until 8:30 PM - that way I know we'll leave on time. But I can't let him in on my little "trick" or he'll just be later.

I just need to find a therapist who is on time, especially if I need to go during work hours. Unfortunately I can't expect my boss to accept his lateness. I could deal with it on a one time basis, say once or twice a year but when it's every one or two weeks, it begins to take it's toll.

I obviously have issues with time, sorry, . It's a pet peeve of mine.

 

[Peanut]

I tell my husband 7:30 PM is the time we have to leave, when we don't have to leave until 8:30 PM - that way I know we'll leave on time. But I can't let him in on my little "trick" or he'll just be later.

That made me laugh justmary! I have done the same thing.

Now, I'm always early and end up skulking around somewhere waiting for my time to do whatever it is I'm wherever I am to do.

I can also relate to this, on time for me is 15 minutes early to account for unforeseen circumstances that might cause time delays.

It used to be seriously distressing for me to be late or to have someone else be late but it doesn't bother me as much anymore. I think it was related to anxiety. But, it still is important to me to have a therapist be punctual, because as justmary pointed out, with the regularity of the visits, I really need to be able to count on being in and out at a certain time.

But I think that one of the biggest points that this thread makes is that you can find someone who has a style that matches your own and that will probably be the best case scenario for both people.