BluMac81
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Melancholy... or at least that is what president Abraham Lincoln experienced. This mundaneness, no, this, lack of seeing any hope for life, or find any temporary 'good feeling' a reason for living.
I sit here now, 1AM. I should be in bed because my goal is to stop all to-do's at 10:30pm, and go to bed at midnight, so that I'm not in that rut of waking up at 12pm and the day is half gone. So I sit here, eating some life cereal at random, i had about 3mg xanax, 1 pill ambien and 1 pill Elavil as usual to help me 'wind down' to the state that I might sleep. Sleeping to me seems...well... illogical... and unnatural. Lying there... fighting the thoughts in your head about yesturday, today, and tommorow, and what you should do or have done differnetly. I begs you to take action, yet, you musn't, for then you will not sleep. Hence the drugs. I probably take Xanax far too often for my own good, it is perscribed and he actually perscribed for 1mg doses per day, so for the most part i'm within limits, but I tend to take 3 or 4 pills before doing something quite 'social'. I'm tellin ya, xanax is THE CURE for social anxiety. However, it works just the same way alchohol does, and niether and healthy long-term solutions.
Things are a bit.... 'weird' for me now. I moved to Colorado Springs, got a part-time job with this security company (going to start the job this coming Sunday, the day after tommorow), and am doing two summer classes at PPCC, MAT106 (Intermediate Algebra) and PSY101. PSY101 is great I could just type for hours in the discussion forums (its an online class), and the subject matter fascinates me, but Algebra... phew, it's been a while since I took a math class so it'll take a bit to get used to the whole math way of thinking. Luckily i'm on the right track in terms of getting my human biology degree at UCCS. What I'm going to do with it? Who knows. Well I do plan on continuing on to grad school in Boulder focusing on neuroscience, but things could change you know.
Anyway now to the main subject. My mood, my depression, my anxiety, my sleep disorders. Well my mood is basically like a roller coaster throughout the day....sometimes I feel content and hyper, and then I will swoop down to this hopeless depression, then I get in this mindset of 'oh there are some good things in this world, i should appreciate the little things', and the mood goes up again. That, or my mood tends to go up if i pop 3-4 1mg xanax pills, or do some tobacco dip (spaced properly of course). I find it hard to 'look forward' to anything throughout the day. I wake up in the morning, groggy (because of the sleep meds), and usually check email and play some World of Warcraft. I'll have some breakfast (usually cereal, fruit, or oatmeal), and then have the first dip of the day. You know, dip... chewing tobacco, stick it under your lip. The first dip of the day is fantastic, my mood is immediately calm, relaxed, tranquil, and all around... happy. I usually do that whilst playing World of Warcraft so I can be social while i'm in that mood. It doesnt last though...about 5 minutes or so into dipping it gets worse and worse, start to feel like this very slight nauceous feeling, and very tired.
SO to conteract that, and also to get myself started for the day I brew a huge cup of coffee and take a shower or bath. By the time the coffee is done, i'm dressed and ready for the day (by this time it is usually 12pm-ish. So here is where I sip my coffee, look at my to-do list (I have it planned Monday-Sunday, and decide in what order I'm going to do everything.
Unfortunately... I have this tendancy that I can't seem to break, that makes me schedule waaay too many to-do's for the day. Stuff that essentially keeps me busy from 12pm till 10:30pm (when i call everything quits for the day). And I would have to say that for the last month, I have not had one single day where I have gotten all of the daily to-do's on the list done, I always realize its late, realize there is no way i can get this done, and transfer the todo's to the next day. These are to-do's like... register my truck at the dmv, apply for disability at the VA, go to tennis lessons, do psych or algebra coursework, etc. etc. But every stinkin time I can't get them all done.
And here I am, Saturday 1:20am, tommorow, at 1:30pm, starts my first day on the job. I am nervous as hell already. I'm not nervous about getting fired, no.... I have the GI bill and stafford loan to get me by at least a bit.... no, I am nervous about the SOCIAL aspect. For one, being the "new guy" is NEVER comfortable, for anyone. So I guess that's normal. But for me, I have this obsession where I am seriously deathly afraid of being labeled as 'stupid' or 'lazy' at a job. I don't know why, it's always been there. So ya naturally, the first day on the job, I will create many opportunities for me to be labeled as stupid or lazy amongst these stranger co-workers... so that does make me nervous. I will probably end up taking 4 xanax before headin to the first day.
Xanax is great, seriously, I take 3 or 4 and social anxiety is... GONE. Like the other day my sister's friend who became my acquaintence invited me to a dinner party, LOTS of people that I didnt know. Normally I woulda freaked and just drove home... but I had xanax, and through everything my mind wasnt on "what do they think of me", it was just on... the present moment. Like in meditation and mindfulness, cept this one is in a pill. Too bad the doctors say long term use of this xanax can get you addicted and have bad side effects. Can't imagine my life without it now, so many changes going on.
As far as sleep goes, yup, the VA wont let me have lunesta (which is THE cure for my sleep issues...(panicing about not being able to sleep which causes me to not sleep), and lunesta was THE cure for that sleeping disorder (xanax helps a bit too as well). So ya instead they give me ambien. Which is not too bad, it does the job, but not nearly as well as Lunesta. Ambien sometimes makes me dizzy, and it makes it hard to wake up in the morning.
Tommorow is gonna be crazy. I want to get all my psy101 and mat106 coursework DONE by the end of the day, since Sunday-Thursday I'm working 1:30pm-7pm. I have loads of errands on my todo list but no way i'm getting them done. I've just got to accept the fact that my (3 page long) to-do list will never be completed. But man I am OBSESSIVE about it, everything that I need to do MUST be on that to-do list or I will freak, since my memory is not too great.
So I dunno, things might change when i start working again. Everyday these constant mood swings are driving me mad. I wake up happy, then become sad, then become happy, then sad. etc. etc. It's not bipolar cause apparently bipolar is with manic or depressive episodes accross several weeks at a time. And i've tried meds that treat bipolar, no effect. No its not... is it... dsythemia? Or whatever they call it? Either way I am just a total mess.
I've forgotten how to have fun, and don't enjoy much of anything anymore (again, only those short periods of some dippin' + playin WoW and sometimes playing some tennis is fun. I am set off to the whole drinking alchohol thing for now... I had one episode where I was challenge to down 1/8th of this 90 proof mint schnapps... (while already drunk) and I did it. Worst night of my life, dizzy, nauceous, puking left and right... not good. Besides alchohol doesnt really make me feel any better than, say, 3-4 pills of xanax does.
So I question. How the heck do I enjoy life? HOW people HOW? Ya nobody is probably reading this now which is fine, its just a journal right. Though its open for comments so feel free to comment. Nobody looks at these though lol.
Why do I bother continue living at this point. Even if i achieve all my dreams and goals, a loving relationship, financial stability, a career that I enjoy, etc., will I even be happy then? Heck now I have tons of 'free time' since I am only taking the 2 class (well till sunday when i start work) and I am still jam packed with to-do's lasting me from when i wake up till when i go to bed. Only parts I enjoy are the ones involving xanax, dipping, and sleeping meds. Otherwise life feels bleak. I find myself searching for 'depressing vlogs' on youtube alot, cause you know, misery loves company. And to me, it seems like everyone in the world is happy but me. Though I'm sure that's not true.
I'm trying though! I'm trying so hard to make a life for myself. Learning tennis, working on my college, degree (yet getting super-deep in debt for it), diligently searching for the love of my life (using match.com now), trying to learn songs on the guitar and piano, all that stuff. I want LIVE my life. Not like certain people I know (*cough* Amanda *cough*) who are content to just not go to school, not work, just stay at home all day and play video games, at age 23. How she lives like that I will never know, no drive or passion. but still she is happy as can be. I've learned that we are all born with different sensitivity levels to our environment and some are set more sensitive to others naturally. There are benefits and downsides to being sensitive and I guess you gotta take the good with the bad eh?
I am in fact continuing therapeutic conseling (appointment on July 2nd to be exact), and intend on getting these issues worked out the right way. I do realize that using Xanax in this way is unhealthy, but, with therapy, I plan to be off it for good. Until then, the anxiety attacks I experience in social situations (for example, starting a new job tommorow, so I"m a nervous wreck today) are nearly unbearable.
My psycologist at my first appointment was leading to the fact that all of my mental disfunctions can be traced back to the fact that my father was a raging alchoholic, he abused and neglected my family and I, until his untimely death (due to alchoholism) at age 59. I'm skeptical that this is the root cause but, certified psycologists know more about this then I do right? What do you guys think? I have been considering going to an Al-anon meeting at some point, my little sister went to one and said it helped alot.
I would appreciate any support or advice, and future comments are always welcome. And yes, I apologize for the excessive length of my post, I tend to be a bit "over-thorough" when it comes to typing out my thoughts... hehe.
Well anyway things getting blurry and it's getting late (nearly 2am geesh), so, just wanted to get things off my chest. Comment if ya want
I sit here now, 1AM. I should be in bed because my goal is to stop all to-do's at 10:30pm, and go to bed at midnight, so that I'm not in that rut of waking up at 12pm and the day is half gone. So I sit here, eating some life cereal at random, i had about 3mg xanax, 1 pill ambien and 1 pill Elavil as usual to help me 'wind down' to the state that I might sleep. Sleeping to me seems...well... illogical... and unnatural. Lying there... fighting the thoughts in your head about yesturday, today, and tommorow, and what you should do or have done differnetly. I begs you to take action, yet, you musn't, for then you will not sleep. Hence the drugs. I probably take Xanax far too often for my own good, it is perscribed and he actually perscribed for 1mg doses per day, so for the most part i'm within limits, but I tend to take 3 or 4 pills before doing something quite 'social'. I'm tellin ya, xanax is THE CURE for social anxiety. However, it works just the same way alchohol does, and niether and healthy long-term solutions.
Things are a bit.... 'weird' for me now. I moved to Colorado Springs, got a part-time job with this security company (going to start the job this coming Sunday, the day after tommorow), and am doing two summer classes at PPCC, MAT106 (Intermediate Algebra) and PSY101. PSY101 is great I could just type for hours in the discussion forums (its an online class), and the subject matter fascinates me, but Algebra... phew, it's been a while since I took a math class so it'll take a bit to get used to the whole math way of thinking. Luckily i'm on the right track in terms of getting my human biology degree at UCCS. What I'm going to do with it? Who knows. Well I do plan on continuing on to grad school in Boulder focusing on neuroscience, but things could change you know.
Anyway now to the main subject. My mood, my depression, my anxiety, my sleep disorders. Well my mood is basically like a roller coaster throughout the day....sometimes I feel content and hyper, and then I will swoop down to this hopeless depression, then I get in this mindset of 'oh there are some good things in this world, i should appreciate the little things', and the mood goes up again. That, or my mood tends to go up if i pop 3-4 1mg xanax pills, or do some tobacco dip (spaced properly of course). I find it hard to 'look forward' to anything throughout the day. I wake up in the morning, groggy (because of the sleep meds), and usually check email and play some World of Warcraft. I'll have some breakfast (usually cereal, fruit, or oatmeal), and then have the first dip of the day. You know, dip... chewing tobacco, stick it under your lip. The first dip of the day is fantastic, my mood is immediately calm, relaxed, tranquil, and all around... happy. I usually do that whilst playing World of Warcraft so I can be social while i'm in that mood. It doesnt last though...about 5 minutes or so into dipping it gets worse and worse, start to feel like this very slight nauceous feeling, and very tired.
SO to conteract that, and also to get myself started for the day I brew a huge cup of coffee and take a shower or bath. By the time the coffee is done, i'm dressed and ready for the day (by this time it is usually 12pm-ish. So here is where I sip my coffee, look at my to-do list (I have it planned Monday-Sunday, and decide in what order I'm going to do everything.
Unfortunately... I have this tendancy that I can't seem to break, that makes me schedule waaay too many to-do's for the day. Stuff that essentially keeps me busy from 12pm till 10:30pm (when i call everything quits for the day). And I would have to say that for the last month, I have not had one single day where I have gotten all of the daily to-do's on the list done, I always realize its late, realize there is no way i can get this done, and transfer the todo's to the next day. These are to-do's like... register my truck at the dmv, apply for disability at the VA, go to tennis lessons, do psych or algebra coursework, etc. etc. But every stinkin time I can't get them all done.
And here I am, Saturday 1:20am, tommorow, at 1:30pm, starts my first day on the job. I am nervous as hell already. I'm not nervous about getting fired, no.... I have the GI bill and stafford loan to get me by at least a bit.... no, I am nervous about the SOCIAL aspect. For one, being the "new guy" is NEVER comfortable, for anyone. So I guess that's normal. But for me, I have this obsession where I am seriously deathly afraid of being labeled as 'stupid' or 'lazy' at a job. I don't know why, it's always been there. So ya naturally, the first day on the job, I will create many opportunities for me to be labeled as stupid or lazy amongst these stranger co-workers... so that does make me nervous. I will probably end up taking 4 xanax before headin to the first day.
Xanax is great, seriously, I take 3 or 4 and social anxiety is... GONE. Like the other day my sister's friend who became my acquaintence invited me to a dinner party, LOTS of people that I didnt know. Normally I woulda freaked and just drove home... but I had xanax, and through everything my mind wasnt on "what do they think of me", it was just on... the present moment. Like in meditation and mindfulness, cept this one is in a pill. Too bad the doctors say long term use of this xanax can get you addicted and have bad side effects. Can't imagine my life without it now, so many changes going on.
As far as sleep goes, yup, the VA wont let me have lunesta (which is THE cure for my sleep issues...(panicing about not being able to sleep which causes me to not sleep), and lunesta was THE cure for that sleeping disorder (xanax helps a bit too as well). So ya instead they give me ambien. Which is not too bad, it does the job, but not nearly as well as Lunesta. Ambien sometimes makes me dizzy, and it makes it hard to wake up in the morning.
Tommorow is gonna be crazy. I want to get all my psy101 and mat106 coursework DONE by the end of the day, since Sunday-Thursday I'm working 1:30pm-7pm. I have loads of errands on my todo list but no way i'm getting them done. I've just got to accept the fact that my (3 page long) to-do list will never be completed. But man I am OBSESSIVE about it, everything that I need to do MUST be on that to-do list or I will freak, since my memory is not too great.
So I dunno, things might change when i start working again. Everyday these constant mood swings are driving me mad. I wake up happy, then become sad, then become happy, then sad. etc. etc. It's not bipolar cause apparently bipolar is with manic or depressive episodes accross several weeks at a time. And i've tried meds that treat bipolar, no effect. No its not... is it... dsythemia? Or whatever they call it? Either way I am just a total mess.
I've forgotten how to have fun, and don't enjoy much of anything anymore (again, only those short periods of some dippin' + playin WoW and sometimes playing some tennis is fun. I am set off to the whole drinking alchohol thing for now... I had one episode where I was challenge to down 1/8th of this 90 proof mint schnapps... (while already drunk) and I did it. Worst night of my life, dizzy, nauceous, puking left and right... not good. Besides alchohol doesnt really make me feel any better than, say, 3-4 pills of xanax does.
So I question. How the heck do I enjoy life? HOW people HOW? Ya nobody is probably reading this now which is fine, its just a journal right. Though its open for comments so feel free to comment. Nobody looks at these though lol.
Why do I bother continue living at this point. Even if i achieve all my dreams and goals, a loving relationship, financial stability, a career that I enjoy, etc., will I even be happy then? Heck now I have tons of 'free time' since I am only taking the 2 class (well till sunday when i start work) and I am still jam packed with to-do's lasting me from when i wake up till when i go to bed. Only parts I enjoy are the ones involving xanax, dipping, and sleeping meds. Otherwise life feels bleak. I find myself searching for 'depressing vlogs' on youtube alot, cause you know, misery loves company. And to me, it seems like everyone in the world is happy but me. Though I'm sure that's not true.
I'm trying though! I'm trying so hard to make a life for myself. Learning tennis, working on my college, degree (yet getting super-deep in debt for it), diligently searching for the love of my life (using match.com now), trying to learn songs on the guitar and piano, all that stuff. I want LIVE my life. Not like certain people I know (*cough* Amanda *cough*) who are content to just not go to school, not work, just stay at home all day and play video games, at age 23. How she lives like that I will never know, no drive or passion. but still she is happy as can be. I've learned that we are all born with different sensitivity levels to our environment and some are set more sensitive to others naturally. There are benefits and downsides to being sensitive and I guess you gotta take the good with the bad eh?
I am in fact continuing therapeutic conseling (appointment on July 2nd to be exact), and intend on getting these issues worked out the right way. I do realize that using Xanax in this way is unhealthy, but, with therapy, I plan to be off it for good. Until then, the anxiety attacks I experience in social situations (for example, starting a new job tommorow, so I"m a nervous wreck today) are nearly unbearable.
My psycologist at my first appointment was leading to the fact that all of my mental disfunctions can be traced back to the fact that my father was a raging alchoholic, he abused and neglected my family and I, until his untimely death (due to alchoholism) at age 59. I'm skeptical that this is the root cause but, certified psycologists know more about this then I do right? What do you guys think? I have been considering going to an Al-anon meeting at some point, my little sister went to one and said it helped alot.
I would appreciate any support or advice, and future comments are always welcome. And yes, I apologize for the excessive length of my post, I tend to be a bit "over-thorough" when it comes to typing out my thoughts... hehe.
Well anyway things getting blurry and it's getting late (nearly 2am geesh), so, just wanted to get things off my chest. Comment if ya want