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David Baxter PhD

Late Founder
Workplace Bullying: Applying Psychological Torture at Work
by Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., Psychology Today
February 2, 2010

Have you been the victim of a workplace bully?

What happens when a schoolyard bully grows up and enters the workforce? Or worse, what if that bully becomes your boss? The result can be outright aggressive behavior or a subtle psychological torture that can make the workplace a living hell.

Someone close to me is experiencing a horrible case of psychological bullying at work. In her case, the main bully is a supervisor, but the supervisor has created an "inner circle" that helps in applying the bullying tactics. Her story caused me to look back on other cases of bullying at work that I have encountered. Unfortunately, there have been far too many.

Workplace bullying is more common than you might expect. A 2007 Zogby survey found that 37% of workers - representing 54 million people -- reported that they had been bullied at work. Some researchers have reported that workplace bullying is a greater problem than sexual harassment.

What are the effects of bullying? Targeted employees can experience fear and anxiety, depression, and can develop a kind of post-traumatic stress disorder - leading to psychological harm and actual physical illness. This leads to absenteeism and turnover as bullied employees avoid or flee the torturous workplace.

What are some of the tactics bullies use in the workplace?

Threats. Most commonly, bullies threaten the employment or career status of the employee. Threats of being fired, or in my friend's case, a threat of "I will dock your pay!" can be particularly troubling (even though my friend is a union employee so her pay cannot actually be affected).

The Silent Treatment. Often a bully and his or her "inner circle" will ostracize victims to the extent of completely ignoring them - refusing to even acknowledge their presence. In other instances, the bullies will stop talking when the victim enters the room, but perhaps continue talking in hushed tones with furtive looks at the victim, giggling and/or making disapproving grunts. You know, the same kind of tactics used in the schoolyard.

Rumors and Gossip. Bullies love to spread lies and rumors about their victims, and these can sometimes be quite vicious. Although untrue, rumors and gossip can filter throughout the organization and actually tarnish an individual's reputation. I've known many insidious cases where a bullied victim sought to fight back, and the bullies spread rumors that the victim was merely a "complainer" and a "problem employee."

Sabotage. Bullies may go so far as sabotaging the victim's work. This can be outright (e.g., destroying or stealing a work product, or more subtle (e.g., altering someone's powerpoint presentation or omitting a page from a report).

What can you do if you are a victim of bullies? There is a very useful website, kickbully.com that discusses the causes and consequences of bullying and suggests how to fight back.
 

David Baxter PhD

Late Founder
Bullies and the Eddie Haskell Effect

Bullies and the Eddie Haskell Effect
by Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., Psychology Today
January 27, 2011

Why workplace bullies often don't get caught.

One reason why workplace bullies may not be discovered is because they suck up to the authorities while bullying subordinates and peers behind their backs. Just like Eddie Haskell from the old "Leave it to Beaver" show (who ingratiated himself to the parents while tormenting the Beaver), the bully pretends to be a model employee - but only when the boss is around.

The night before I was to do a full-day leadership skills and team-building workshop with a company, I received a frantic call from an employee who told me about her bully-boss. She was obviously distraught and pretty much at the end of her rope, as she discussed the daily torrent of insults and put-downs that she had to endure from her supervisor. At the first morning break, I was approached by her supervisor. "I think my leadership skills are pretty good, but I really want to improve them." He then went on to tell me about how much he cared for his supervisees - "they're like my own kids." Just like Eddie Haskell. Of course, throughout the rest of the workshop he looked engaged, making eye contact and nodding whenever I was looking his way, but I overheard him talking to another supervisor about "having to sit through this bullshit."

My 10-year-old daughter clearly understands the Eddie Haskell effect. She had often mentioned a girl at her school who was a bully. When I visited the campus a little girl greeted me warmly, "Hello, Mr. Riggio," she said sweetly. I noticed the look of disgust on my daughter's face. When I later commented on how polite she was, my daughter said, "Sure. She's like that to the adults, but she's the bully I've told you about."

In order to detect bullying, it is critical that authorities take steps to create a climate of open communication, where employees feel free to share information about what is going on in the workplace, without fear of retribution. Reports of bullying, like all reports of harassment, need to be taken seriously and investigated thoroughly.
 

desiderata

Member
It is reassuring to know that you are not alone. The feeling of loneliness is one of the more dreaded emotions we have. To know that there are others out there going through what I'm going through gives me strength with the numbers of 37% of 54 million people surveyed (that's almost 20 million people.) I will go to the suggested website to gain insight and resolve to fight back.
 
Hey David,

Thank you for the post. I have worked for a major private university for the past five years and was promoted a few months back working for the Office of Equal Opportunity and Access. This is the very office that is suppose to stop work place Harassment. My director is a bully. Into the job, I learned three people walked out on her and one employee had to go to the head of HR to alleviate some of her tactics.

She turned on me after finding out of my HIV status and has been harassing me ever since. She feels extremely important. Anyway, I've put up with her yelling and screaming, belittling for way too long. About a month ago, she called me into her office and told me this wasn't a good fit. I agreed. She gave me permission to search for other positions on campus. I went on about six interviews which I thought were a slam dunk.

Yesterday she called me into her office, and handing me a final written warning (I never received an original warning). Anyway, it was full of lies and highly inflated, most of which I can debunk from email exchanges that I have printed off at home. I do a good job and have a great work ethic--I'm just too nice. Because of this, I am no longer a candidate for any of the positions I interviewed for. She told me she was going to fire me on May 5th.

Instead of going to the head of HR, I filed a formal complaint of harassment with our Provost (the highest level I can go) who will have to look into the matter. I guess I could even file with the EEOC, but I am tired of all of this--completely deflated. I think management sticks with management, but I'm not going without a fight. If she is throwing me under the bus, I'm taking her with me--or at least exposing several complaints HR has covered up.

Along with my HIV, I have bipolar disorder (which is in check), and anxiety. I take meds and see a therapist. This has taken its ultimate toll on me. In a way, I feel that loosing this job can be a blessing. Maybe I can do the very thing I was meant to do--I'm thinking about throwing in the towel and becoming a professional blogger. I'm more of a short story writer. Illinois has a CHIP program and for $400/mo, I can get BCBS PPO for my meds and docs.

I really don't know what to think. I'm a bit numb and frightened. But I'm no longer going to be a push over. I realize now, more than ever, I need community support--which is why I joined this forum. At least to get some perspective. Besides, life is far more important than a job. Instead of working for the Establishment, I'm going to forge ahead and follow the path I was meant to follow. Let's just hope it works with real-life economics.

Thanks Again,


WK
 

David Baxter PhD

Late Founder
I'm not sure what recourse is available to you in the US. Perhaps one of our US members can comment. It certainly sounds like you might have a case for workplace harrassment or wrongful dismissal if it comes to that but I'm neither a lawyer nor familiar with US law.
 

moondust

Member
My husband has been going through this at his job for the past 2 1/2 years, one of his bosses is very self-important (everything he has and everything he does is better than anyone else, in his mind)...he puffs up, yells, threatens, he is just a total jerk. Everyone in town knows he's like this. My husband could easily kick his butt, but with the way the economy is, he just has to suck it up. He'll stand up to his boss, but the boss nontheless just can't seem to help himself. It happens repeatedly, and my hubby is most definitely depressed, stressed, anxious, can't sleep, always in physical pain. It makes me sick to see him go through this. After reading this article, I would love to tell him to file a claim with worker's compensation, but that is neither here nor there at this point - he's starting a new business within a few weeks (already has his own shop he's getting ready to open, just waiting on hoists) and is going to take one of his bully boss' $200K a year accounts with him. Sometimes, payback can be a real b*tch. But I am still considering filing a lawsuit over this.
 
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