Cat Dancer
MVP
I'm kind of feeling like a therapy failure right now. I've been in therapy for almost three years. We've mostly been dealing with learning coping techniques for my fairly extreme self-destructiveness. He knows about a lot of my past though from asking me questions about it and me squeaking out answers. I really, really have had SO much trouble talking though. I have been so scared, terrified, beyond that actually, about dying or something really horrible happening to someone I love if I talk about certain things that I just couldn't talk until the last couple of sessions.
I cannot believe it has actually taken me this long to talk. If he's been frustrated with me he hasn't expressed it at all. One thing that really helped was him telling me that therapy was for me, that it was my time to talk about what I needed to talk about. This was just recently. I actually cried when he said that because I have never had that anywhere with anyone before in real life.
So I talked about a few of the very hardest things I'm dealing with inside and he was really understanding and explained how I need to TRY to see these things instead of constantly blaming myself.
I don't know exactly where I'm going with this, but talking like this has brought up so much pain and emotion and I'm scared to keep doing so. I feel like I'm failing if I do or if I don't. Doomed either way I guess.
Is there a way to get past this fear? Or to deal with it so I don't completely fall apart?
I hope this makes sense.
I cannot believe it has actually taken me this long to talk. If he's been frustrated with me he hasn't expressed it at all. One thing that really helped was him telling me that therapy was for me, that it was my time to talk about what I needed to talk about. This was just recently. I actually cried when he said that because I have never had that anywhere with anyone before in real life.
So I talked about a few of the very hardest things I'm dealing with inside and he was really understanding and explained how I need to TRY to see these things instead of constantly blaming myself.
I don't know exactly where I'm going with this, but talking like this has brought up so much pain and emotion and I'm scared to keep doing so. I feel like I'm failing if I do or if I don't. Doomed either way I guess.
Is there a way to get past this fear? Or to deal with it so I don't completely fall apart?
I hope this makes sense.