Not sure how to put this down on paper, but I need advice and I need it now. My daughter is a very beautiful full of life girl, her only problem with life is that she is darker then everyone else in her family and its getting to her more and more every year. You see she does not know that she has a different father then her brother, I know I need to tell her I'm just not sure how and I don't want to change the close relationship that she has with her daddy right now. I am scared of how she is going to feel and how my son is going to feel about it also. I went through a lot of operations and a lot of fertility drugs to have her, she was defiantly no accident. Me and my husband where having marriage problems because of my medical condition and we stopped having sex. He knew I was down to the last couple of fertility drugs available and on my 6th operation to say the least I was desperate and praying to god for a child. Yes it was wrong but I had an affair, I had to make sure I had done everything humanly possible to have a child I would not have another chance if all of the operations and the fertility drugs failed then I would have to have a hysterectomy. The man I had an affair with knew that I wanted to get pregnant our agreement was that he would never make any claims to my baby and I would never chase him for child support. He was a lot older then me and he was a sailor with a great French accent I assumed he was dark because he owned a few boats and was always talking about sailing, and I never asked his heritage (Not that it would have mattered to me). My husband excepted the baby from the time he found out I was pregnant it was like we feel in love all over again, and even when she was born and came out with black hair and dark skin all he said was 'I knew you messed you around' but he never took his eyes off of her he proudly carried her over to his family and said I'm a daddy. He has protected that girl from day one and does not want me to tell her that he is not her real father. A year later we had a son, yes his, he look just like his daddy. But I feel my daughter needs to know who she is and why she's different from us. People constantly ask her if she is Hispanic or even at a McDonalds they will ask "are you with them" and she has started raising her voice and yelling yes! That's my mom! I'm just darker! How do I tell her without destroying her world? She is a very special girl if she sees someone down she will not leave the room until she gets that person to smile, I don't want her to change she's too good of a person to hurt.Please help me.
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