sweetanise
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Hi Jen,
I gotta say, it went amazingly well! Of course, I have known many of these people for a very long time, felt safe with them and wasn't faced with my biggest panic-inducing trigger - walking down the street. So, things went well. Also, this wasn't about me, was it? It was all about one of my best friends marrying a wonderful man, and the celebration that ensued.
Strangely enough, I was faced with attending another wedding in September, my cousin's, and was not able to muster up the courage to go. However, much of my anxiety revolves around family, so maybe it isn't that surprising that I didn't go.
I read your posts in the Misc. folder and have to say I'm really sorry things aren't going any better for you. I think you did the right thing in paying for your phone/internet. They're your lifeline with the "outside" world! It just wouldn't be bearable for you not to have these utilities. And I don't think you should worry too much about being evicted for rent being late and not having someone to co-sign your lease, just yet. Like others have said, there's a whole process involved in evicting someone. So I dare say you have enough time to find a new place if need be.
I meant to ask, when creditors call you and start being mean, have you ever taken their names asked to talk to their superiors? Sometimes this can help. Also, when I applied for bancruptcy, I was told to be firm with whoever was calling (easier said than done, I know...). So my advice, for what its worth, and anyone else, please feel free to correct me, would be to say ( to the supervisor, as much as possible) that you can only give them so much money at this time and that it is not that you do not want to pay, it is that you cannot at the moment.
Anyway, I think I understand how you must feel. I was never so stressed as when I had financial problems, had to move and then find a roommate!
Sending you lots of positive vibes,
Mel
I gotta say, it went amazingly well! Of course, I have known many of these people for a very long time, felt safe with them and wasn't faced with my biggest panic-inducing trigger - walking down the street. So, things went well. Also, this wasn't about me, was it? It was all about one of my best friends marrying a wonderful man, and the celebration that ensued.
Strangely enough, I was faced with attending another wedding in September, my cousin's, and was not able to muster up the courage to go. However, much of my anxiety revolves around family, so maybe it isn't that surprising that I didn't go.
I read your posts in the Misc. folder and have to say I'm really sorry things aren't going any better for you. I think you did the right thing in paying for your phone/internet. They're your lifeline with the "outside" world! It just wouldn't be bearable for you not to have these utilities. And I don't think you should worry too much about being evicted for rent being late and not having someone to co-sign your lease, just yet. Like others have said, there's a whole process involved in evicting someone. So I dare say you have enough time to find a new place if need be.
I meant to ask, when creditors call you and start being mean, have you ever taken their names asked to talk to their superiors? Sometimes this can help. Also, when I applied for bancruptcy, I was told to be firm with whoever was calling (easier said than done, I know...). So my advice, for what its worth, and anyone else, please feel free to correct me, would be to say ( to the supervisor, as much as possible) that you can only give them so much money at this time and that it is not that you do not want to pay, it is that you cannot at the moment.
Anyway, I think I understand how you must feel. I was never so stressed as when I had financial problems, had to move and then find a roommate!
Sending you lots of positive vibes,
Mel