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Albert Ellis, 93, Influential Psychotherapist, Dies
By MICHAEL T. KAUFMAN, July 25, 2007

Albert Ellis, whose innovative straight-talk approach to psychotherapy made him one of the most influential and provocative figures in modern psychology, died yesterday at his home above the institute he founded in Manhattan. He was 93.

The cause, after extended illness, was kidney and heart failure, said a friend and spokeswoman, Gayle Rosellini.

Dr. Ellis (he had a doctorate but not a medical degree) called his approach rational emotive behavior therapy, or R.E.B.T. Developed in the 1950s, it challenged the deliberate, slow-moving methodology of Sigmund Freud, the prevailing psychotherapeutic treatment at the time.

Where the Freudians maintained that a painstaking exploration of childhood experience was critical to understanding neurosis and curing it, Dr. Ellis believed in short-term therapy that called on patients to focus on what was happening in their lives at the moment and to take immediate action to change their behavior. ?Neurosis,? he said, was ?just a high-class word for whining.?

?The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you to feel better,? he said in a 2004 article in The New York Times. ?But you don?t get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.?

If his ideas broke with conventions, so did his manner of imparting them. Irreverent, charismatic, he was called the Lenny Bruce of psychotherapy. In popular Friday evening seminars that ran for decades, he counseled, prodded, provoked and entertained groups of 100 or more students, psychologists and others looking for answers, often lacing his comments with obscenities for effect.

His basic message was that all people are born with a talent ?for crooked thinking,? or distortions of perception that sabotage their innate desire for happiness. But he recognized that people also had the capacity to change themselves. The role of therapists, Dr. Ellis argued, is to intervene directly, using strategies and homework exercises to help patients first learn to accept themselves as they are (unconditional self-acceptance, he called it) and then to retrain themselves to avoid destructive emotions ? to ?establish new ways of being and behaving,? as he put it.

His methods, along with those of Dr. Aaron T. Beck, a psychiatrist who was working independently, provided the basis for what is known as cognitive behavior therapy. A form of talk therapy, it has been shown to be at least as effective as drugs for many people in treating anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder and other conditions.

His admirers credited Dr. Ellis with adapting the ?talking cure,? the dominant therapy in extended Freudian sessions, to a pragmatic, stop-complaining-and-get-on-with-your-life form of guidance later popularized by television personalities like Dr. Phil.

Dr. Ellis had such an impact that in a 1982 survey, clinical psychologists ranked him ahead of Freud when asked to name the figure who had exerted the greatest influence on their field. (They placed him second behind Carl Rogers, the founder of humanistic psychology.) His reputation grew even more in the next two decades.

In 1955, however, when Dr. Ellis introduced his approach, most of the psychological and psychiatric establishment scorned it. His critics said he misunderstood the nature and force of emotions. Classical Freudians also took offense at Dr. Ellis?s critical observations about psychoanalysis and its founder. Dr. Ellis contended that Freud ?really knew very little about sex? and that his view of the Oedipus complex, as suggesting a universal law of human disturbance, was ?foolish.?

A sexual liberationist, Dr. Ellis collaborated with Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey in his taboo-breaking research on sexual behavior, and his writings about sex drew complaints from members of the American Psychological Association.

As a base for his work he established the Institute for Rational Living, now the Albert Ellis Institute, in a townhouse on East 65th Street in Manhattan. He lived there on the top floor.

The article in The Times described Dr. Ellis at 90, hard of hearing and recovering from abdominal surgery, coming downstairs one day in the spring of 2004 to lead one of his Friday sessions, just as he had for 30 years.

?Do you know why your family is trying to control you?? he asked a volunteer who had joined him in front of the audience. ?Because they are out of their minds!? he said, inserting an unprintable adjective.

Another participant recalled the murder of her sister years ago by a drug dealer. ?Why can?t you understand that some people are crazy and violent and do all kinds of terrible things?? Dr. Ellis declared. ?Until you accept it, you?re going to be angry, angry, angry.?

Some critics complained that his seminars were more stand-up comedy than serious lecture. Still, despite his iconoclasm, or perhaps because of it, rational emotive behavior therapy became one of the most popular systems of psychotherapy in the 1970s and ?80s. In 1985, the American Psychological Association presented Dr. Ellis with its award for ?distinguished professional contributions.?

Dr. Ellis was the author or co-author of more than 75 books, many of them best sellers. Among them were ?A Guide to Successful Marriage,? ?Overcoming Procrastination,? ?How to Live With a Neurotic,? ?The Art of Erotic Seduction,? ?Sex Without Guilt,? ?A Guide to Rational Living,? and ?How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything ? Yes, Anything.?

He often went back to his own life experiences to help explain his positive frame of thinking. Albert Ellis was born on Sept. 27, 1913, in Pittsburgh, the oldest of three children. As a child, he wrote, he had a kidney disorder that turned him from sports to books. His parents moved to the Bronx and separated when he was 11. He once wrote that he had limited but amiable contacts with his father, a traveling salesman, and that his mother, an amateur actress, was not interested in domestic life.

He maintained that the experience had left no scars. ?I took my father?s absence and my mother?s neglect in stride,? he wrote, ?and even felt good about being allowed so much autonomy and independence.?

He did well in school, skipped grades, won writing contests and, he said, was pleased with his accomplishments.

But at 19 he was painfully shy and eager to change his behavior. In one exercise he staked out a bench in a park near his home, determined to talk to every woman who sat there alone. In one month, he said, he approached 130 women.

?Thirty walked away immediately,? he said in the Times article. ?I talked with the other 100, for the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was. Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops.?

Though he got only one date as a result, his shyness disappeared, he said. He similarly overcame a fear of speaking in public by making himself do just that, over and over. He became an accomplished public speaker.

Dr. Ellis studied accounting at City College during the Depression and took up some entrepreneurial schemes after graduating. In one, he paired used men?s jackets and pants of similar colors and sold them as suits. He wrote fiction but found no publishers. He had read a good deal about sex and set up a bureau in which he counseled couples.

His first marriage, to Karyl Corper, an actress, in 1938, ended in annulment. His second, in 1956, to Rhoda Winter, a dancer, ended in divorce. For 37 years, from 1966 to 2003, he lived with a companion, Janet L. Wolfe, a psychologist who had been executive director of the institute. More recently he married Debbie Joffe-Ellis, a psychologist and former assistant, who survives him.

After receiving a doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia in 1947, Dr. Ellis spent several years undergoing classical psychoanalysis while using its techniques in his job at a state mental hygiene clinic in New Jersey. He quit in 1950 to begin a private practice specializing in sex and marriage therapy and soon started drifting from Freudian orthodoxy, finding it, he said, a waste of time.

He turned to Greek, Roman and modern philosophers and considered his own experience. Out of this came rational emotive behavioral therapy, which he decided would focus not on excavating childhood but on confronting the irrational thoughts that lead to self-destructive feelings and behavior. He founded his Manhattan institute in 1959.

?I was hated by practically all psychologists and psychiatrists,? he recalled. They thought his approach was ?superficial and stupid,? he said, and ?they resented that I said therapy doesn?t have to take years.?

In 2005, Dr. Ellis sued the institute after it removed him from its board and canceled his Friday seminars. He and his supporters claimed that the institute had fallen into the hands of psychologists who were moving it away from his revolutionary therapy techniques.

The board said it had acted out of economic necessity, asserting that payouts to Dr. Ellis for medical and other expenses were jeopardizing the institute?s tax-exempt status. Dr. Ellis was by then hard of hearing and required daily nursing care. Some board members said they were uncomfortable with his confrontational style and eccentricities and saw him as a liability.

In January 2006, a State Supreme Court judge ruled that the board had been wrong in ousting Dr. Ellis without proper notice and reinstated him. But his friend Ms. Rosellini said Dr. Ellis?s relations with the board had remained strained afterward.

Despite his failing health, Dr. Ellis maintained a demanding schedule late into his life.

?I?ll retire when I?m dead,? he said at 90. ?While I?m alive, I want to keep doing what I want to do. See people. Give workshops. Write and preach the gospel according to St. Albert.?


Wow, thank you for posting this. Albert Ellis was such an amazing man who made contributions so massive in caliber it's difficult to put into words. Here's to a great man and an amazing psychologist who will not soon be forgotten! By the way, I have read several of his books and I have found them among the most helpful of the self help variety. I'm speechless...I wish he was still here but am so grateful for for all the gifts he left the field of psychology. Thank you Dr. Ellis!! You left an amazing legacy!

just mary

Maybe if she stopped smoking she might attract the right male...;)

Just kidding around. Actually my last (and only) therapist was big into REBT. He tended to idealize Albert, I found it kind of strange. I felt I couldn't trust someone who followed another person so religiously.

But I am sorry that he passed away. I think he had some very positive effects on people.

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Hey you guys!! Oh my gosh! If you are talking about me I quit 2 days ago (again)!!!!!!!!!!!


I know what you mean about subscribing too heavily to one theory. I know I was working with (or I should say supervised by I guess) a psychologist that was really into REBT and Ellis. When I got emails from him often they would have Ellis quotes in them. Also when I told him something went wrong he would say, "When you fall off your bike, do you say it hurts too bad to get back on, or do you get back on and RIDE!!!" it was total Ellis all the way. It got me all revved up in the moment but it wore off a little bit later! LOL--I still remember it though and tell myself that every once in awhile..get back on the bike and RIDE!!!! :cool:


Congrats and good luck, right?! Thanks Daniel!!!! So far so good!!!! :2thumbs: I want to live to be 93 too!!
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