Worried_friend
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Hi all. I have a close friend that suffers from PTSD. Her history is of child abuse (brother), rape, physical abuse. I dated this woman twice this year and was very hurt by her both times she broke up with me. After the second time she told me of her past, and told me she is in therapy for PTSD. We have remained friends and I have been very supportive of her where I can.
She tried to commit suicide 6 months ago. At this stage I wasn't seeing her (she broke up with me last xmas, and we got back together after her suicide attempt). She told me how she had told one of her friends to "f off", and that she was trespassing in her house and would call the police. She said that she actually had wanted her to stay as she was scared of what she was going to do.
Fast foward to 2 weeks ago. She has been in a bad way for the last month (she lost her mother at xmas 16 years ago, and I think it must be a trigger). She has no contact with her family anymore, and it's a very hard time for her. Anyway, 2 weeks ago, a firiend of hers and mine were very worried about her, so I dropped round to check she was ok. I was comfronted with a barrage of abuse "f off, you're trespassing etc". I said I wouldn't leave as I was worried. She said she would ring her therapist and she'd tell me to leave. She actually rang a friend of hers and tricked me into thinking it was her therapist. She said, just go, I'll ring you in 5 minutes, so i left.
Now she blames me for "pushing her over the edge by pushing myself into her home". I've tried explaining to her why (because of what she told me about the last time). It's very hard as she has asked me to leave her alone which I have done. The only times I've contacted her was to thank her for her xmas present (she had a friend drop it around). Thats when I got over the edge txt msg. She also says I scare her!? I've never hurt her and never would. Why would she think that? I'm at my wits end. I feel so helpless, and very hurt by what she has said.
So I guess my question is what should I do now? I can only think that leaving her alone is the only option? She only has two other close firends, andf one is in Australia. I want to help but she won't let me. Any advice would be appriciated.
She tried to commit suicide 6 months ago. At this stage I wasn't seeing her (she broke up with me last xmas, and we got back together after her suicide attempt). She told me how she had told one of her friends to "f off", and that she was trespassing in her house and would call the police. She said that she actually had wanted her to stay as she was scared of what she was going to do.
Fast foward to 2 weeks ago. She has been in a bad way for the last month (she lost her mother at xmas 16 years ago, and I think it must be a trigger). She has no contact with her family anymore, and it's a very hard time for her. Anyway, 2 weeks ago, a firiend of hers and mine were very worried about her, so I dropped round to check she was ok. I was comfronted with a barrage of abuse "f off, you're trespassing etc". I said I wouldn't leave as I was worried. She said she would ring her therapist and she'd tell me to leave. She actually rang a friend of hers and tricked me into thinking it was her therapist. She said, just go, I'll ring you in 5 minutes, so i left.
Now she blames me for "pushing her over the edge by pushing myself into her home". I've tried explaining to her why (because of what she told me about the last time). It's very hard as she has asked me to leave her alone which I have done. The only times I've contacted her was to thank her for her xmas present (she had a friend drop it around). Thats when I got over the edge txt msg. She also says I scare her!? I've never hurt her and never would. Why would she think that? I'm at my wits end. I feel so helpless, and very hurt by what she has said.
So I guess my question is what should I do now? I can only think that leaving her alone is the only option? She only has two other close firends, andf one is in Australia. I want to help but she won't let me. Any advice would be appriciated.