BluMac81
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So, as I'm sure many of you know I have been especially dealing with the emotion of anger over the past few months with my roommate. Her anger, she expresses (rather violently and tearfully), my anger, I shut it out... 'cleanse it' so to speak by means of filling myself for compassion for the person I'm angry with (through prayer, meditation, empaty, etc.), and I NEVER show anger unless in an extreme situation. Simply feel too guilty after harsh words are spoken by me, and the guilt hurts more than anything else. The anger becomes toxic with me. Still though, is holding it in or 'cleansing it' so to speak the best way to deal with anger?
My little sister (now nun) had a bad and very similar issue with expressing anger, in that, she never expressed it. Me and my siblings shared an intimate moment with her as she told us how much holding in her anger has hurt her so much.
So where's the fine line? Like now, I have a million things I could be angry about with my roommate, but not a single word I would speak of it to her, not even a raised voice. I will admit it, I AM angry with her. For so many things, I won't even get into it. But how much anger, and in what fashion should anger be expressed to promote mental wellness? That's the million dollar questions here folks, anyone have any thoughts on this?
My little sister (now nun) had a bad and very similar issue with expressing anger, in that, she never expressed it. Me and my siblings shared an intimate moment with her as she told us how much holding in her anger has hurt her so much.
So where's the fine line? Like now, I have a million things I could be angry about with my roommate, but not a single word I would speak of it to her, not even a raised voice. I will admit it, I AM angry with her. For so many things, I won't even get into it. But how much anger, and in what fashion should anger be expressed to promote mental wellness? That's the million dollar questions here folks, anyone have any thoughts on this?