I think these things don't get organised and set up with a letter unless everything really is approved and ready to go ahead. Somebody for some reason changing the plan after it has been all approved and set up like it is now, would be a waste of the resources that have been used to set it up. (I mean sometimes timing changes happen for some reason, like scheduling errors or something.... but I see no reason why anything could happen like actual full cancellation or withdrawal of the whole thing. Unless there was like a big huge change of government or funding all of a sudden or something really huge like that. And even if something huge like that stuff happened, it usually doesn't happen in a sudden way, and would not usually affect things already scheduled and close to happening.
I think it's really hard to accept good, when you have lived your life locked in acceptance that things will always go wrong and be bad and you will never, ever get what you need or want. Things seeming to go differently can make you get nervous. You're just waiting for the bad to happen somehow and trying to figure out how you will feel! Yes, very stressful to feel that way. There have been threads here on that exact feeling. You are not alone LW, you are understood because definitely there are people here who have written about that and definitely know what you mean.
I think you will gradually start to get a little more used to some good things happening LW and not feel the stress of "looking out for bad" as much.
There will still be hard stuff and letdowns too, because they do happen in life to all of us....no matter how much we take care of ourselves and break out of old patterns and learn to recognize and steer clear of untrustworthy/selfish/dishonest people and stuff... we all still can make a mistake or not recognize a pitfall, and also just through no mistake of our own, as they say,
"$hi+ happens!" But also because it does take quite a bit of time and ongoing work to learn and learn and get confident with our abilities of taking care of ourselves, finding good things and people instead of not-so-good things and people, etc. But bit by bit, you can bet it gets better and better. You will find yourself seeing the signs more easily and saying "Whoops, uh-oh! That's a sign for me to move along... There, I've avoided that pothole this time! Better my own company than trouble company. Plenty of time to seek out the good eggs and safe situations." And your self-worth improving will help you start knowing that you are not stuck with trouble options... realizing that your options are getting wider and that there are various safe ways to interact or connect while keeping boundaries and safeguards against many problems.
There will always be bumps in the road but you will gradually get more and more confidence LW and feel more and more like you are on steadier ground. And you will get good at remembering various tools and ideas and options for the bumpy times, and discovering new ones too. We will be here too for bumpy times or just questions or learning or whatever too.
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I think it's really hard to accept good, when you have lived your life locked in acceptance that things will always go wrong and be bad and you will never, ever get what you need or want. Things seeming to go differently can make you get nervous. You're just waiting for the bad to happen somehow and trying to figure out how you will feel! Yes, very stressful to feel that way. There have been threads here on that exact feeling. You are not alone LW, you are understood because definitely there are people here who have written about that and definitely know what you mean.
I think you will gradually start to get a little more used to some good things happening LW and not feel the stress of "looking out for bad" as much.
There will still be hard stuff and letdowns too, because they do happen in life to all of us....no matter how much we take care of ourselves and break out of old patterns and learn to recognize and steer clear of untrustworthy/selfish/dishonest people and stuff... we all still can make a mistake or not recognize a pitfall, and also just through no mistake of our own, as they say,
"$hi+ happens!" But also because it does take quite a bit of time and ongoing work to learn and learn and get confident with our abilities of taking care of ourselves, finding good things and people instead of not-so-good things and people, etc. But bit by bit, you can bet it gets better and better. You will find yourself seeing the signs more easily and saying "Whoops, uh-oh! That's a sign for me to move along... There, I've avoided that pothole this time! Better my own company than trouble company. Plenty of time to seek out the good eggs and safe situations." And your self-worth improving will help you start knowing that you are not stuck with trouble options... realizing that your options are getting wider and that there are various safe ways to interact or connect while keeping boundaries and safeguards against many problems.
There will always be bumps in the road but you will gradually get more and more confidence LW and feel more and more like you are on steadier ground. And you will get good at remembering various tools and ideas and options for the bumpy times, and discovering new ones too. We will be here too for bumpy times or just questions or learning or whatever too.
🌄🌞🌻
