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    "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life;
    not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."
    Kahlil Gibran, posted by David Baxter

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Coping responses are infinite, but can be categorized as problem and emotion-focused coping and dysfunctional coping. Emotion-focused coping regulates stressful emotions by changing the way the relationships in the environment are attended to, and reappraisal of these if necessary. It may involve emotional distancing or seeking social support, and may be used if the situation can't be changed, such as the MT [menopausal transition]. Problem-focused coping alters the environment to reduce stress and is generally employed when the situation is perceived as controllable.

Dysfunctional coping is defined as those coping styles that employ avoidance, denial, self-blame, or detrimental ways of coping such as alcohol or drug abuse. Greater psychological distress and symptom reporting during the MT [menopausal transition] has been associated with less effective coping styles. This requires greater education and management to promote effective coping and better well-being.

Coping styles are seldom used alone, and may change over time and adapt to the demands of the situation. It is suggested that people may employ preferred coping strategies that can be applied over a variety of situations.
 
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Light exercise does more to boost cognitive function than relaxing for the same amount of time. And the reason appears to be that movement lifts mood and leaves people feeling more energized than doing nothing.
 

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"The purpose of behavioral activation is to improve your mood, not stress you out even more."
 

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“If you come away from a meeting or telephone conversation with friends, family, or anyone, feeling depleted, anxious, [or] wound-up, there are probably boundaries being breached.”

Research also shows that blurred boundaries, particularly between work and home life, are linked to unhealthier lifestyles and lower levels of happiness, along with a higher risk of family conflict...

“If you’ve got a narrative in your head that says you’re worthless and undeserving, then you’re going to find it difficult to put boundaries in place that protect you. A lot of it comes down to self-worth and self-value.”

It doesn’t take much to start encouraging this mindset either, adds Baker. The more you engage in activities “that release feel-good hormones, like singing, running, or whatever you want to do — things that feed your own heart — then that’s going to help change your internal dialogue and make you feel more deserving.”
 

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Countless books and blogs offer ways to “boost self-control,” or even to “meditate your way to more willpower,” but what’s not widely recognized is that new research has shown some of the ideas underlying these messages to be inaccurate...
 
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Devon Price, a social psychologist and the author of Laziness Does Not Exist, says that laziness is probably a sign you need to take a break, not work more.

To stop feeling like you're worth only your "hard work" — try the values clarification exercise :acrobat::

Here's how it works:
  1. Form a long list of values, things like achievement, family, spirituality, money, creativity, community, etc.
  2. Identify the areas you want to focus on.
  3. Narrow that down to just three values. Which would you pick?

Picking three areas to focus on will help get rid of the guilt around not doing "enough."

"I think laziness really is this canary-in-a-coal-mine kind of emotion that tells us when our values are out of step with our actual lives," explains Price. Once you have a sense of what really matters to you, then you can realign your life to be in step with your values.
 

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During hardship it can be helpful to release from any sense of this has to be meaningful or I need to make the most out of this in favor of being kind to yourself, being where you are, and just getting through. If you pay close attention to what is happening inside of you during these liminal phases, and do so without judgment, the right choices and actions tend to emerge on their own. Gradually, you progress from disorder to reorder.
 

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"You will never eliminate stress from your life. Instead create regular opportunities for the body to recover from stress."
 

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Identifying places in your community or near your workplace with features that provide:
  • Soft fascination, such as good locations to view the sunset or watch the clouds or waves roll in.
  • The feeling of being away from your everyday life, like a short walk in a nature preserve or walk by a river or creek.
  • Beautiful, breath-taking vistas and views of the water, valleys, and other natural landscapes.
  • Compatibility (consider your preferences, fears and safety concerns, mobility and fitness level, etc.).
 

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