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A part I have covers a span of about 10 years. The years between late teens to just into thirties. She is having a hard time understanding the choices she made were based on how she was raised, which included several traumas and neglect. The years she lived (19 to 32) she lived under a brainwashing situation which we believe had to do with the way she was raised. it was not her fault that she got stuck in the brainwashing situation but she feels badly, even suicidal. When she reached those early thirties there was another major life trauma and so that is approx where she ends. The deal is the age our body is and the years after 30 or so are pretty well not her memories and so we have a lot of communication and memories to get through in therapy. She is our most dissociated part from the rest of us, so far. We do have PTSD/DDNOS and for her likely DID/DDNOS, well along with the other parts having their own issues but I wouldn't say dx, even though there are parts with depression, anxiety, ocd and some really well adjusted parts too, if I can call them that.
Externally, I appear at first to be fairly adjusted. I work, have a family and interact with people. I am never okay on the inside however. There are conflicts, heightened emotions, wandering away from stuff (in my mind) etc, etc. I think that people who do not have this are probably talking about holidays, skiing, biking, doing classes together, going place, having dinners out and stuff and she is still back at 20 to 30 or so, shaking her head, thinking what happens now? And, me I am trying to say it is okay, I understand but i look around and I don't seem, behave, have, act like people my body age. This is quite worrisome. I don't seem to fit anywhere. I get afraid for the future, even though I have a faith. I feel embarrassed to not have accomplished as much as others and I am running low on hope.
Maybe I just need support today and tomorrow will be okay, who knows?! Even writing this has exhausted me/us.
Thanks for reading. it will probably be okay again soon. I have been in therapy for some years and things are getting better that way. But my resultant life looks a bit like a battle ground when I take a look around. What type of ongoing work will have me. How do friends work out if they know that I am the way I am based on early years plus additional adult trauma? I wouldn't change my life for the world but i certainly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy either. I do have a loving family that partly understand what has gone on in my life and I have a couple of great therapists but I am just feel so out-of-place. Not really a stigma but I am not free to say anything about me, like say if someone had cancer. It is a lonely place to be but also a triggering place so getting together with others is almost a scary endeavour.
Oh, well, that is about all for now. I'll wait to hear any reply and then perhaps comment.
Thank you
---------- Post added at 04:22 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:14 AM ----------
Admin: Sorry about the colour thing. I know some people with dissociation find the colour black to be quite scary, so I was trying to be sensitive to them.
Externally, I appear at first to be fairly adjusted. I work, have a family and interact with people. I am never okay on the inside however. There are conflicts, heightened emotions, wandering away from stuff (in my mind) etc, etc. I think that people who do not have this are probably talking about holidays, skiing, biking, doing classes together, going place, having dinners out and stuff and she is still back at 20 to 30 or so, shaking her head, thinking what happens now? And, me I am trying to say it is okay, I understand but i look around and I don't seem, behave, have, act like people my body age. This is quite worrisome. I don't seem to fit anywhere. I get afraid for the future, even though I have a faith. I feel embarrassed to not have accomplished as much as others and I am running low on hope.
Maybe I just need support today and tomorrow will be okay, who knows?! Even writing this has exhausted me/us.
Thanks for reading. it will probably be okay again soon. I have been in therapy for some years and things are getting better that way. But my resultant life looks a bit like a battle ground when I take a look around. What type of ongoing work will have me. How do friends work out if they know that I am the way I am based on early years plus additional adult trauma? I wouldn't change my life for the world but i certainly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy either. I do have a loving family that partly understand what has gone on in my life and I have a couple of great therapists but I am just feel so out-of-place. Not really a stigma but I am not free to say anything about me, like say if someone had cancer. It is a lonely place to be but also a triggering place so getting together with others is almost a scary endeavour.
Oh, well, that is about all for now. I'll wait to hear any reply and then perhaps comment.
Thank you
---------- Post added at 04:22 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:14 AM ----------
Admin: Sorry about the colour thing. I know some people with dissociation find the colour black to be quite scary, so I was trying to be sensitive to them.
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