do you guys think it's possible that enmeshed families become "unenmeshed"? and if yes, then only w/ therapy or w/ time, or family members taking on different roles etc.? ie. if one person changes how she/he reacts w/in the family context will that eventually "teach" others to change their ways or react differently as well? the same thing goes for emotional abuse, is there any way that it will stop without actively working on it? is it still emotional abuse even if it isn't constant?? (for physical abuse I'd say yes, but in this case I don't know). I feel like I am at a place where I am always expected to fix things in the family, be there for everyone, never have any problems myself, and if say someone is having a bad day it's "normal" that I get yelled at for that or have to sacrifice my day/time/plans in order to take care of that. totally reversed roles. It is very difficult to deal w/ things in the right way if everyone's lives are so enmeshed w/ each others and I wonder if there is any way this will ever stop... family counseling isn't really an option. and as much as I try to live my own life and have them live their lives it always comes down to the same problems....