I am a young man in a very happy and commited relationship. I am lucky to have found what I believe is the woman of my life. She is wonderful and there is no way I could find anybody better or more compatible with me. Yet I have hard time fighting the everyday tempations. I trust her and I believe she loves me and would always be faithful to me unless I was stupid enough to cheat on her. I have been with her for more than 2 years and even though I can't think of anything that bothers me about her, as time went by I started to look at other women and think about other women. I have never cheated on her but I am afraid it has been more by a lack of opportunity than my own strong will. She had to move away recently for personal reasons so we are currently living a long-distance relationship and I find myself missing her and loving her more than ever. I am afraid however that once she comes back, I will get back to doubting and taking her for granted. I know all men are different and some I know would never cheat on their spouse no matter what, I wish I was one of them but I have more than serious doubt. Is it possible to get rid of the temptations and those thought? When I enter a new place why do I look to see if there are any good looking women, When I drive why do I look at the drivers to see if it's a woman, When a woman bends over why do I look to see if she is wearing a thong? I know some of them have to be accepted, but I want to live the rest of my life with this woman, I don't want to ever cheat on her but if one day a beautiful woman comes to me and tempted me, I fear I would be weak and break. The problem I am almost sure is coming 100% from me and not from her or our relationship, I don't know if it's my character or something I've lived in my life, but try and want to change it. I have tried unsuccessfully and don't know what to do. I am no psychiatrist and I don't know the reason for those thought, could it be caused by the fact that I was really shy as a Kid and didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18? I seriously doubt the problem comes from my family for I was lucky to have a wonderful one.
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