One of the best ways to learn to hold your values lightly is to practice self-compassion. This is a practice that I learned from Kristin Neff. Self-compassion is not self-pity.
Self-pity is feeling sorry for yourself. Self-compassion is being kind to yourself. Self-compassion is not self-indulgence.
Self-indulgence is doing things to soothe yourself that are not good for you. Self-compassion is being kind to yourself.
Self-compassion is not self-esteem. Self-esteem is judging yourself...
Finding a Balance between Optimism and Pessimism
by Darlene Marshall, Positive Psychology News
Jan 30, 2021
“While you can’t control your experiences, you can control your explanations.” ~ Martin E.P. Seligman
It’s been 23 years since Seligman’s original publication of Learned Optimism, in which he describes optimism and pessimism as explanatory styles rather than dispositional traits. In Seligman’s model, optimists can see the limited context and duration of their problems. They also do...
Why Finding Your Purpose Is Important When Battling Depression
by Jasmine L. Bennett, World of Psychology
Feb 5, 2020
When your mood is at the lowest of low, it’s hard to even think that someone loves you or cares about you. You feel like you’re unnoticed by everyone. It’s hard to even think that anyone wants to have you around, and you may even feel like you’re a burden to everyone.
In reality, you do have value and a meaning in life. Everyone is imperfect and everyone makes...
Finding Peace in the Dark Corners of Your Life
by Wendy Leeds, Tiny Buddha
June 4, 2019
"The mind can go in a thousand directions, but on this beautiful path, I walk in peace. With each step, the wind blows. With each step, a flower blooms." ~Thich Nhat Nanh
It’s easy to feel peaceful and positive when the sun is shining and life is going your way. It’s a different matter when you’re alone, afraid, sick, or so tired you have trouble getting out of bed in the morning.