Goal weight

[Misha]

I'm really struggling with my goal weight and calorie level right now. I am still about 25 pounds less than my previous "goal weight" where my binge drive and hunger disappeared last time in treatment, but my BMI is healthy [[Edit: potential triggering number]] just where I am. And I'm on a higher calorie level than I've ever been. My dietician wants to up my calories even more because I'm not gaining. I try to argue that my metabolism is simply working better than it was six months ago, but arguing about your goal weight is just viewed as an "eating disorder" behavior. But in all honesty that's not where its coming from. My body feels good where it is right now and I don't think they should force me to a higher weight just "because". If they force me, it'll only be more tempting to return to the behaviors I've left behind. I managed to get out of a calorie increase for today, at least the doctor is kind of on my side, but my dietician will be relentless in staying on top of this (I wouldn't expect any less-she's good at her job). I just wish they could believe that I'm not being eating-disorder motivated in this.

 

[braveheart]

Re: Goal weights

It sounds like you're pretty healthy as you are.

 

[ladylore]

Can you ask your dietician to be a bit more gentle with you? You can also talk with her about what she sees and to go over what she would like you to eat to bring you up to the goal she is suggesting. This way you can find a middle ground that you are both comfortable with.

I know with myself the more someone tells me to do something the more I tend to stand my ground even when what is being asked of me may be good for me.

 

[Misha]

Thank you both.... it's not that I dont' understand where she's coming from.... its just so hard to gain these people's trust. I have a hard enough time trusting them without them refusing to trust me.