suewatters1
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I don’t how to phrase this but some days I am happy somewhat and other days I am feeling really down. I have this friend of mind who I love and I get the impression he is interested but he is very shy and he has a lot of his own issues. Also he has all the signs of severe ADHD.
Someday he says he will call and he doesn’t because he gets so preoccupied that he loses track of time.
But why is it that it feels like I depend on him to make me happy. I should be happy with myself but I get lonely and feel alone most times so spending time with this person or talking to him on the phone cheers me up. We have so much in common. I saw him last night. The 2nd time he let me in his house and we talked for about 2 hours and we both had a good time.
This morning we talked briefly on the phone for a few minutes and he thanked me again for a lovely evening we had last night. He enjoyed it. Well I did to. But how do I get my mind off him so when he says he will call at such a time and he doesn’t or he gives me the impression that we will see each other maybe the next day and we don’t. I feel like I am not important.
He knows that if he loses track of time and he forgets to do something with somebody that it is not a good thing. He mentioned that this morning. I told him it’s not a good thing.
In the past when I tried to become more then friends with him and never worked out because of his ADHD and sleeping problems. In the last 5 months he has changed quite a bit and all for the good but I think his shyness is causing most of the problems right now.
I feel alone and depress but when I am with him it’s like I feel so at home with him.
I can’t rely on him to make me happy and I don’t want to smother him either. I got to find other things to make me happy but I can’t seem to right now. I feel he is my soul mate but I don’t want to get depress when I feel he has let me down like he has in the past. People in the past told me to give up on him. I see a difference in him since I started seeing him again as a friend 5 months ago and I feel he is worth it. But I don't want to be emotionally dependent on him but I want to be his friend and lover.
Sue
Someday he says he will call and he doesn’t because he gets so preoccupied that he loses track of time.
But why is it that it feels like I depend on him to make me happy. I should be happy with myself but I get lonely and feel alone most times so spending time with this person or talking to him on the phone cheers me up. We have so much in common. I saw him last night. The 2nd time he let me in his house and we talked for about 2 hours and we both had a good time.
This morning we talked briefly on the phone for a few minutes and he thanked me again for a lovely evening we had last night. He enjoyed it. Well I did to. But how do I get my mind off him so when he says he will call at such a time and he doesn’t or he gives me the impression that we will see each other maybe the next day and we don’t. I feel like I am not important.
He knows that if he loses track of time and he forgets to do something with somebody that it is not a good thing. He mentioned that this morning. I told him it’s not a good thing.
In the past when I tried to become more then friends with him and never worked out because of his ADHD and sleeping problems. In the last 5 months he has changed quite a bit and all for the good but I think his shyness is causing most of the problems right now.
I feel alone and depress but when I am with him it’s like I feel so at home with him.
I can’t rely on him to make me happy and I don’t want to smother him either. I got to find other things to make me happy but I can’t seem to right now. I feel he is my soul mate but I don’t want to get depress when I feel he has let me down like he has in the past. People in the past told me to give up on him. I see a difference in him since I started seeing him again as a friend 5 months ago and I feel he is worth it. But I don't want to be emotionally dependent on him but I want to be his friend and lover.
Sue
