Therapist leaving

[boi]

Hi,
I haven't been around in a while but it seems like life has brought me back here. My T is retiring and it is completely overwhelming me. I have to find a new one. Everything is so confusing. I really love my current one. I met another one recently and it was pretty good. But they were completely different then my current one.

Different personality, style, approach, character. I will meet the new one again, because I don't think I can tell if we are a good fit after one visit. I know I will not find someone exactly like my current one but maybe I can build a new relationship with someone else. The problem I am having is understanding different personalities and styles.

My current one does not disclose a lot about themselves. The new one, on the first visit I found out a few personal things about them. Is this bad? Most likely their intention was to form a connection with me (as in find something that we can connect to). It was not inappropriate just different.

Maybe different will push me in a different direction and this will turn out well. Or not??? It is so confusing and I am so overwhelmed. I don't want my current one to retire. We have spoken about it but maybe we need to speak more. The new one is more "human", I hope that makes sense. I think these are very different schools of thought. If anyone can give me some insight that would be good.

 

[forgetmenot]

Re: therapist leaving

Hi boi nice to see you again.

I do understand hun.
Myself i like the psychologist that is more human but that is me i can connect to someone easier if i know they are not all hidden behind their professional title so to speak

I guess it is just what you are comfortable with.
I can see it being so hard hun to have to change therapist but like you said maybe a new approach will get different results.

New eyes will see different things hun I hope all goes well Let us know ok

 

[boi]

thanks forgetmenot,
I was thinking the same thing as in seeing things with fresh eyes. I guess I am just really nervous about everything. Not knowing what is right or wrong it has completely confused me. Maybe this a great learning experience for me and I just have to go with it and see what happens. Glad to know this is preference regarding the "being human". Not that my current one is not "human" but the new one is definitely more open and extroverted.

 

[forgetmenot]

I can understand why you would have some fear the unknown does that to one. Life does that too it keep throwing at us new learning opportunities new people that bring us new things.
This new connection it will grow and you will gain trust and the connection will not be the same as the last therapist but who knows hun it may even be better
I am glad you have the courage to try again that is all one can do is to keep trying .