Trying to cope

[SilverRaven]

I have been doing SI and am trying to stay away from it and think of some other things to do to relieve my anxiety and frustration...but the usual things are not working at the moment...I know what I am doing is not helping but it takes my mind off my issues.....I have tried reading and writing and watching t.v. listening to music..all of which last for a few mins..before I am back to dwelling on the issues going on...I have been shaking and pacing and sweating and my heart feels like its been in a marathon and yet I cant calm down...my mind is going blank on ideas...tried to eat got sick...so any other suggestions out there...how does everyone else get through these times when they get stuck in a mind set?....

 

[Yuray]

At times, when I am stuck in a negative mind set, I think of my brother who was killed some years ago. I tell myself he would, (if possible) give anything to have his life back, even if it meant having the troubles that bother me. Other times, I go to the childrens section of a cemetery and look at the decorations, the little toys and dolls and stuffed weather beaten teddy bears, lovingly placed there by people who have had pain that I could never fathom. I don't let these coping strategies diminish my troubles, for my troubles are valid, but I am more aware that I am alive, and have opportunities missed by so many others, at having peace in life. All I have to do is continue on living, and search for answers.

 

[SilverRaven]

Other times, I go to the childrens section of a cemetery and look at the decorations, the little toys and dolls and stuffed weather beaten teddy bears, lovingly placed there by people who have had pain that I could never fathom. .

I can understand their pain...I lost a child and I often visited her grave and put things on it..now I am to far away to do that...I think about her constantly and wonder what she would be like today...but I will never know.....I miss her terribly......I have kept busy this evening writing some more ...this time it seemed to work a bit better for me than earlier...I have just never tried before to cope with my issues...just acted upon them so I am trying to do something different to get by.......

 

[Yuray]

I have just never tried before to cope with my issues

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