My wife has been acting distant for a few days, so on thursday I almost forced it out of her. She said that she feels the need to separate because she's not where she wants to be right now. We have 2 kids 12 & 19. She said that when she went to the OBGYN for her yearly exam, something just snapped in her head, and she suddenly got all of these feelings. She is 47, I'm 42, and I'm praying it is a hormone thing (pre-menopause). I am devistated! I'm having anxiety and panic attacks hourly, and can't seem to think of anything else, except that my marraige and my family is gone, I feel like someone died. She went to see a counsoler to talk about her feelings, I'm so afraid that they will only validate them. I called the same counsoler to set up a time for me to come in and talk about what I'm going through, but haven't heard back from her. I feel so lost and confused, we have had a pretty good life together, our share of ups and downs, but we have gone to couples counciling and worked it out. Now it feels like she just wants out. I don't know what to do.