Today my therapist said that she is "the mother you can never have". I know that was referring to the transference that has been happening because she has been really nice and supportive to me like a mum. It just really hurt when she said that she's the mother I can never have. I was already insanely jealous of her two children because I imagine her to be a really caring mum and now I feel ever sadder that she isn't mine too. I'm questioning how helpful it is for someone like me to find out what I've been missing all my life, to find out how it really feels for someone to care for you and encourage you like your parents didn't. Maybe ignorance is bliss in this case? Because the more I experience what I've never had, the more I don't want to lose it again and the sadder and angrier I am that I didn't have it. How does it help me to feel this and then to have it taken away from me again when the therapy ends? I don't understand how to get through this. I don't understand why it's supposed to be a good thing to work through transference or for it even to be there in the first place. Maybe I should be avoiding therapists of my mum's age instead.
Any thoughts would be really welcome.
Thanks so much,
Poss
Any thoughts would be really welcome.
Thanks so much,
Poss