stargazer
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After almost six months of (off and on) tackling difficult bureaucracy in order to make sure my Medi-Cal benefits were transferred back to my original County, in order that I might see my therapist again; I have become uneasy about seeing her.
(By the way, although I admit to being a person who has a difficult time with bureaucracies, she did assure me that a lot of people here have trouble with the Inter-County transfer. I just want you to know that it's not just me, it's the system as well. Also, my sister had to be involved (being my Payee) at several stages, which was difficult for her, for similar reasons.)
During the six months, my therapist and I sometimes engaged in a phone call or an email exchange, but we both tried to keep it light because I was not officially one of her patients and so I couldn't really get services there. She was mainly trying to help advocate for me to get my accepted back into the system, through the transfer of the benefits and other hurdles.
I don't know if my perceptions have changed, or if she has changed, but I began to perceive her as an unusually uptight person. Then I recalled that she often seemed not to let me speak during therapy - I'd get halfway through my sentence, and she'd interrupt me, as though the subject of my difficulties was freaking her out on some level. There were also many days when she had a total agenda, and useful though it might have been on another day, it prevented me from being able to talk about my issues at all.
The clinic is very short-staffed right now, which is another reason this has taken so long. There are exactly two therapists there. I wonder if I ought to try to see the other therapist instead, with whom I have no experience. Also, if I want to do this, how do I go about bringing this up? It seems it might hurt my current therapist's feelings. Also, it seems it might not even be possible. The other therapist might be totally booked.
If that's the case, then I'd feel awkward for having brought it up. But I wonder if I should just bring it up anyway. I left the first appointment in a worse mood than the fairly good mood I went in there with, because it seemed that she kept bringing things up that didn't apply to my present set of conditions and struggles.
True, that was a screening, and we were trying to cram two hours worth of information into the hour they had allotted us (they made this decision figuring they all knew me already), but still I got the feeling that certain things would be emphasized that probably wouldn't be helpful. I'm worried that I might never get to address my real issues.
But mostly, I'm worried about the therapist herself. She might be going through a period when she herself is personally hassled about something, and it might be affecting her work.
If anyone can shed some light on my concerns, I'd really appreciate it. I have sometimes asked for feedback (for example, a while back when I was concerned about dealing with an ADHD friend), and I guess my request got lost in the shuffle, because nobody said anything. I know I'm not on here too often anymore, but I can't think of where else to get a detached point of view, off the top of my head.
I suppose I could call my old Kaiser therapist off-the-record, but he has said he doesn't want to be in that position. I sometimes call him just to shoot the breeze, though, just because he's a great guy - and it's all right to do that now that I am no longer a Kaiser member. But it would be helpful to get support from people here on PsychLinks as I'm trying to figure out how to approach this situation.
Also, Merry Christmas to all to whom those words hold meaning. My next appointment is scheduled for January 5th.
(By the way, although I admit to being a person who has a difficult time with bureaucracies, she did assure me that a lot of people here have trouble with the Inter-County transfer. I just want you to know that it's not just me, it's the system as well. Also, my sister had to be involved (being my Payee) at several stages, which was difficult for her, for similar reasons.)
During the six months, my therapist and I sometimes engaged in a phone call or an email exchange, but we both tried to keep it light because I was not officially one of her patients and so I couldn't really get services there. She was mainly trying to help advocate for me to get my accepted back into the system, through the transfer of the benefits and other hurdles.
I don't know if my perceptions have changed, or if she has changed, but I began to perceive her as an unusually uptight person. Then I recalled that she often seemed not to let me speak during therapy - I'd get halfway through my sentence, and she'd interrupt me, as though the subject of my difficulties was freaking her out on some level. There were also many days when she had a total agenda, and useful though it might have been on another day, it prevented me from being able to talk about my issues at all.
The clinic is very short-staffed right now, which is another reason this has taken so long. There are exactly two therapists there. I wonder if I ought to try to see the other therapist instead, with whom I have no experience. Also, if I want to do this, how do I go about bringing this up? It seems it might hurt my current therapist's feelings. Also, it seems it might not even be possible. The other therapist might be totally booked.
If that's the case, then I'd feel awkward for having brought it up. But I wonder if I should just bring it up anyway. I left the first appointment in a worse mood than the fairly good mood I went in there with, because it seemed that she kept bringing things up that didn't apply to my present set of conditions and struggles.
True, that was a screening, and we were trying to cram two hours worth of information into the hour they had allotted us (they made this decision figuring they all knew me already), but still I got the feeling that certain things would be emphasized that probably wouldn't be helpful. I'm worried that I might never get to address my real issues.
But mostly, I'm worried about the therapist herself. She might be going through a period when she herself is personally hassled about something, and it might be affecting her work.
If anyone can shed some light on my concerns, I'd really appreciate it. I have sometimes asked for feedback (for example, a while back when I was concerned about dealing with an ADHD friend), and I guess my request got lost in the shuffle, because nobody said anything. I know I'm not on here too often anymore, but I can't think of where else to get a detached point of view, off the top of my head.
I suppose I could call my old Kaiser therapist off-the-record, but he has said he doesn't want to be in that position. I sometimes call him just to shoot the breeze, though, just because he's a great guy - and it's all right to do that now that I am no longer a Kaiser member. But it would be helpful to get support from people here on PsychLinks as I'm trying to figure out how to approach this situation.
Also, Merry Christmas to all to whom those words hold meaning. My next appointment is scheduled for January 5th.