Hi everyone,
I first came to these forums because I was undergoing a painful breakup. In fact, I still am in that I haven't been able to fully let go and move on yet. I still feel loss, grief, and occasionally bouts of anger.
To complicate matters more, I have met someone new. He's great... he is different than other men I have dated in the past. We've seen each other twice just to hang out and we haven't done anything intimate, not even holding hands or a goodnight kiss. He does, however, call me every couple of days. I've been sick this week so our next date will be next week.
He is great in every way, however - he is obsessively tidy. I have never been in the presence of someone who has to have his apartment so clean. There is a routine all guests must partake in before you step into his abode. You must remove your shoes but NOT let your feet touch the hallway floor. As you take off one shoe, you must immediately place your foot inside. If you touch your foot down in the hallway after you've taken off your shoe, you have contaminated your foot. If that happens, you must endure his wrath. After you enter, you must wash your hands. THEN, you may enter the rest of the place and make yourself at home. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.
I am not a neat freak. I am messy. Scratch that, I am Messy (with a capital M.) I respect the rules in his apartment, but I think he will have a heart attack if he ever comes to mine and sees that I have lots of clutter and never dust and rarely vacuum. Even if I make an effort to clean up before his visit, it still won't meet his standards. I don't know how long I can avoid inviting him over.
Is this relationship doomed to fail? I'm not sure if I am being overly cautious or perhaps I'm looking for reasons not to get involved because I still feel love for someone else. However, I would like to see where this new relationship goes.
I first came to these forums because I was undergoing a painful breakup. In fact, I still am in that I haven't been able to fully let go and move on yet. I still feel loss, grief, and occasionally bouts of anger.
To complicate matters more, I have met someone new. He's great... he is different than other men I have dated in the past. We've seen each other twice just to hang out and we haven't done anything intimate, not even holding hands or a goodnight kiss. He does, however, call me every couple of days. I've been sick this week so our next date will be next week.
He is great in every way, however - he is obsessively tidy. I have never been in the presence of someone who has to have his apartment so clean. There is a routine all guests must partake in before you step into his abode. You must remove your shoes but NOT let your feet touch the hallway floor. As you take off one shoe, you must immediately place your foot inside. If you touch your foot down in the hallway after you've taken off your shoe, you have contaminated your foot. If that happens, you must endure his wrath. After you enter, you must wash your hands. THEN, you may enter the rest of the place and make yourself at home. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.
I am not a neat freak. I am messy. Scratch that, I am Messy (with a capital M.) I respect the rules in his apartment, but I think he will have a heart attack if he ever comes to mine and sees that I have lots of clutter and never dust and rarely vacuum. Even if I make an effort to clean up before his visit, it still won't meet his standards. I don't know how long I can avoid inviting him over.
Is this relationship doomed to fail? I'm not sure if I am being overly cautious or perhaps I'm looking for reasons not to get involved because I still feel love for someone else. However, I would like to see where this new relationship goes.
