HI everyone,
I'll try to make it as simple as I can and hoping that I can get some feedback or different ideas.
I've been seperated from my ex more then 3 yrs and divorce one yrs now. My ex never really showed real interest in the kids. He works 12 hrs shifts and get has much overtime has he can so in average he get to see the kids onces a month about. I've been liberal with visitations for his familly certainely his parents.
Well a few weeks ago my bf said a coment wel I was ont he phone with my ex on route to pick up the girls. My ex overheared so when we got their he came to the window of the van and said to my ex to talk to him directly extra..... end of it they argued in front of my kids which wasn't good at all. I took the time to explain a few things about it to the kids(adult stuff)
Here's where the problem arise. My ex ask to see the kids 2 days after and on a school night.....never done that before. Well he took the kids and told them he bought a house in the town we use to live in....big home, nice pool and much more. When he drop them off the kids ran to me and said that they were moving cause daddy has a big pool. Which i refuse. Kids are 8 and 10.
My ex got the kids after mothers day weekend. for the friday night and when they came home after the girl were all confused and one said that she has to talk to the juge....(8 yr old) and the 10 yrs said that at her birth-day in oct she can do as she pleases. Now they were all confuse again. Since now they don't want to go and live with him and he hasn't called.
I believe that this has to do with the argument and the money he gives to the kids.
How can I protect them from manipulation??? Feel good about themselves ???
I've consulted 2 laywers and didn't get the same result.... I'm stress , hurt and confused!!!
I'll try to make it as simple as I can and hoping that I can get some feedback or different ideas.
I've been seperated from my ex more then 3 yrs and divorce one yrs now. My ex never really showed real interest in the kids. He works 12 hrs shifts and get has much overtime has he can so in average he get to see the kids onces a month about. I've been liberal with visitations for his familly certainely his parents.
Well a few weeks ago my bf said a coment wel I was ont he phone with my ex on route to pick up the girls. My ex overheared so when we got their he came to the window of the van and said to my ex to talk to him directly extra..... end of it they argued in front of my kids which wasn't good at all. I took the time to explain a few things about it to the kids(adult stuff)
Here's where the problem arise. My ex ask to see the kids 2 days after and on a school night.....never done that before. Well he took the kids and told them he bought a house in the town we use to live in....big home, nice pool and much more. When he drop them off the kids ran to me and said that they were moving cause daddy has a big pool. Which i refuse. Kids are 8 and 10.
My ex got the kids after mothers day weekend. for the friday night and when they came home after the girl were all confused and one said that she has to talk to the juge....(8 yr old) and the 10 yrs said that at her birth-day in oct she can do as she pleases. Now they were all confuse again. Since now they don't want to go and live with him and he hasn't called.
I believe that this has to do with the argument and the money he gives to the kids.
How can I protect them from manipulation??? Feel good about themselves ???
I've consulted 2 laywers and didn't get the same result.... I'm stress , hurt and confused!!!