Everything hurts

[Lonewolf]

To start with it could be a man doing the assessment!! That would freak me out before anything else!!! I am also afraid of any confrontation that may happen and the big issue is if they tell me that they can't or won't help me!! I would be totally destroyed and embarrassed if that happened!!! I am also concerned about what I would do if they couldn't help me!!! mg:

 

[Retired]

To start with it could be a man doing the assessment!!

Could you just say that you have some issues that make you feel uncomfortable being seen by a male therapist, and that you would be more comfortable being seen by a female? I think that is not an unreasonable request to make.

I cannot imagine a therapist suggesting anyone is beyond help. Has that ever been suggested to you in the past?

 

[Cat Dancer]

Not to hijack your thread, but I also have a appointment with a mental health work on Tuesday, a psychiatrist. I am anxious and nervous. I will be thinking of you though and sending through the air ( ) positive thoughts.

 

[Lonewolf]

In answer to your question 'yes'!!! I was told that no one could ever cure me, which I understand!! And I was also told that I am as good as I am ever going to get! This was by the last psychiatrist!! So not very positive, hey?? mg:

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Good luck lol! I sincerely mean that!!

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i'm petrified!!!!

 

[Retired]

And I was also told that I am as good as I am ever going to get! This was by the last psychiatrist!!

So that was the opinion of one person. Did this psychiatrist explain why in his/her opinion your illness was untreatable?

If I were in your situation, I would seek another opinion, at least.

In the end, the question remains, do you want to get better, find ways to manage your symptoms and regains some if not all control of your life?

 

[Lonewolf]

my control was taken away from me when I was raped and abused!!!! If I could ever 'get over' that I would be half way there!!! It effects everything more now than it ever did when it actually happened!! I can't get a brain transplant so that im not trapped inside this repulsive body!!! I know that's never going to happen!!! I do have times when I think I am coping better with my lot and I have times when I feel like my fight was over before it began!!

Im so sorry to say this, but I needed to say it where its safe!!! I apologise if its out of order!!

 

[MHealthJo]

"Bah Humbug" to the last psychiatrist, Lonewolf.

There are always more options or ideas to explore and there are always possibilities we can think up even if some boring old person wasn't imaginative enough...

There are always limits that we can shake off of ourselves eventually
...



Sending lots of strength to you..... You can do it.... !! xx

 

[Lonewolf]

went to assessment and it seems they haven't given up on me totally, yet! Even though I have! I have to wait for the result, but he told me it shouldn't be more than a couple of weeks!! Unfortunately it was a man and there wasn't a woman available to do it!! I had a worker from the group I go to, with me and I get on really well with her! she was able to fill in the gaps when I felt uneasy discussing difficult stuff with him!!

 

[Retired]

my control was taken away from me when I was raped and abused!!!!

Lonewolf,

I couldn't even imagine the terrible harm you must have endured. I'm encouraged by the evaluation you underwent, and that your experience was largely positive, though I understand your apprehension with having had to do it with a male, but fortunately you arranged to have an ally come with you.

This indicates to me that you do have some control of your circumstances, and hopefully with counseling and therapy you will learn to gradually increase the level of control of your life.

I thought you might find some inspiration from the following article in The Telegraph, titled Life After Rape that tells about women who were raped but found ways to come back and regain control over their own lives.

The article ends with this message:

For local support services visit thesurvivorstrust.org. To find a Rape Crisis centre near you visit Rape Crisis - England and Wales Contact Victim Support on 0845 303 0900 or Victim Support

Have you ever had contact with these?

 

[Lonewolf]

I have been in touch with the Rape crisis service but there is a very long list im still awaiting my turn! I am at number 24 now! I am not in any rush for this though!!! The thought of revisiting any of it, is much more of a struggle for me than the actual waiting for an individual therapist to become available!! There is a helpline but its not available during the nights which is when I find things difficult!! mg:

 

[MHealthJo]

You have done amazingly Lonewolf yet again. You are amazing. So proud of you!!

Keep hanging in there....

 

[Ftbwgil]

Hi Lonewolf,

I sense your frustration and I would like to say that some of the books I read say all sorts of things and everybody who reads a book gets a different view /angle of the message. My point is that if someone tells you that you are as good as it will get then they are right ...... about themselves!!!!!!! not you ..... how can they make that comment and conclusion..... they are not you..... while they might have an ideal about you, the truth lies within yourself. The determination is within you. My best example for making my own determinations is the upbringing I had. If I would have listened and accepted the statements of my caregivers i would probably not be alive today. The fact that you are here and voicing your feelings and concerns is done for you. Not to validate anyone elses opinion or thoughts. You have had unfairness in your life and I can relate. To me the only moment in life that is real is the now. This moment now will never happen again therefore try to do things that keep you in the now. And decide that your recovery will improve your way of being and if anyone says differently then know that they cannot and i mean cannot make a conclusion about your well being.... they are not you... they cannot predict or control your determination to live a better life. Only you can do that. As soon as someone gets negative with me I make a conscious decision to exclude their opinions from my life. I think your doing fantastic as you are expressing your feelings .