As I have shared in other posts, my children and I left the family home three years ago. I am trying to move towards greater independence from my estranged spouse and have been trying to separate myself from him as best I can. As I'm learning, it's more than just living in a different house, (although we are MUCH happier here). My specific problem is that he mistreats me when ever I tell him I would like to get on with the separation officially. He puts it off and speaks to me in a way that makes me feel frightened and threatened and unreasonable and guilty about my choice. Every time I take a definite step (letter from a lawyer on my behalf or suggestions from me on separating procedures) I get the feeling that he is so threatened personally from my desire for separation that he may go to ANY extreme to stop himself from suffering the loss. I mean here that I am afraid for my life when I persue the divorce with him. I know he has some serious issues of his own to deal with. On practical coparenting matters we get along ok, it's just this deep emotional entanglement that seems to be causing this 'life and death', ' him or me'
'resolution'. I sincerely believe that he would rather see me dead than allow me to have a separate life from him. It feels like deep, foreboding waters, and I'm treading in them. Please respond.
'resolution'. I sincerely believe that he would rather see me dead than allow me to have a separate life from him. It feels like deep, foreboding waters, and I'm treading in them. Please respond.