Going back to therapy

[forgetmenot]

So I made an earlier appointment with my psychologist as I was not coping too well but now feel maybe I should have waited. I know it is important to get all this past dealt with. As soon as I walk into the room I can feel me putting up my guard knowing certain words actions will be used to send me back. I am going to try not to be so on guard today. New Year resolution to start early not to be so up tight and to just work with doctor to get this done all of it. Do people still get uptight with therapy even though they have been going it will be almost a year now? Just wondering...

 

[Andy]

Personally it has been awhile without therapy for me, but I do remember feeling uncomfortable discussing new issues. Once I got them out though that feeling almost turned to relief.
I use to think of it like this; an hour of being uncomfortable is well worth the trade if it meant going on my way to a lifetime of relief.

However long your appointment is, it's one hour (for example) out of your whole life time. Then keep reminding yourself of that the next time, except also remind yourself that you have always made it through the last session that was difficult, and nothing catastrophic happened.

Just my opinion, I hope your appointment goes well, you can totally do this, don't let your mind talk you out of it. :friends:

 

[Jazzey]

I still get a little nervous before every appointment. But, usually I think my psychologist senses it and finds ways to get me talking until I'm no longer nervous.

There are still some issues that I find harder to discuss. But, I know that I'll eventually talk about them - when I'm feeling a little safer.

 

[Murray]

yeah Violet I have been going for a year now and I still get nervous before most of my appointments. I usually start to shake pretty badly while I am sitting in the waiting room, but I try to relax. I know that my therapist only wants what's best for me and he is very patient with my anxiety. We have managed to find a way to work even though it is hard for me to talk a lot when I am nervous. Unless it was a particularly difficult session, I usually feel better after my appointment. Even though I have this nervousness before my appointments, I know that I am doing what I need to do to improve my life and it is so worth it. I'm glad that you want to keep working on this you really do need to take care of yourself. It is definitely a struggle to just relax and not be so on guard, but I am sure your therapist understands that you are struggling with this. Good Luck

 

[forgetmenot]

I think my therapist is too observant as he can see things even if i don't say anything. He listens so well and understands even without me saying much. I am so tired he see this i am burnt out but i know now this is my doing and i have to just back down now a bit until i am stronger. I go in with so much hope i can tell everything i can just fix everything then leave not saying what i went to say because i didn't have backbone to do it. Oh always next time I booked another appointment in a little over one week maybe then i will be able to do more. thanks for your responses

 

[Andy]

An observant therapist is a good thing, no?:yoda: That's great.
Maybe you could write down the things that are harder to say. Might make it easier to just give him a piece of paper. No harm in giving it a try.
Good luck next week.:support: