Hi guys,
I was just wondering how others feel when their therapist discloses something personal about their own life during therapy sessions. My therapist has started to disclose more recently and sometimes I find it useful as I can relate to it and I know that she understands where I'm coming from but at other times I don't really like it. I see my therapist as a kind of mother figure and I adore her, respect her, look up to her and I find that when she talks about her daughter I get insanely jealous. I just don't want to acknowledge that she is someone's mum but not mine. I don't have a good relationship with my mother so I have strong feelings towards my therapist when she gives me advice and says things like a normal mother would. I know that it's transference and it's not real and that she doesn't feel the same way but I can't help feeling like that.
There are other things that she has disclosed such as things about her husband being like my husband and it has started to feel more like a friendly conversation than a therapy session. I am glad that I am feeling more relaxed in therapy and I feel that we have a closer relationship and that's why we are able to talk like that, but somehow it feels too much and I want to still see her as a mother figure and someone who can advise me, rather than someone that has similar things going on in her own life. Does that make any sense??
Anyone have any similar experiences or opinions about this? I'd love to hear about them.
Thanks,
Poss
I was just wondering how others feel when their therapist discloses something personal about their own life during therapy sessions. My therapist has started to disclose more recently and sometimes I find it useful as I can relate to it and I know that she understands where I'm coming from but at other times I don't really like it. I see my therapist as a kind of mother figure and I adore her, respect her, look up to her and I find that when she talks about her daughter I get insanely jealous. I just don't want to acknowledge that she is someone's mum but not mine. I don't have a good relationship with my mother so I have strong feelings towards my therapist when she gives me advice and says things like a normal mother would. I know that it's transference and it's not real and that she doesn't feel the same way but I can't help feeling like that.
There are other things that she has disclosed such as things about her husband being like my husband and it has started to feel more like a friendly conversation than a therapy session. I am glad that I am feeling more relaxed in therapy and I feel that we have a closer relationship and that's why we are able to talk like that, but somehow it feels too much and I want to still see her as a mother figure and someone who can advise me, rather than someone that has similar things going on in her own life. Does that make any sense??
Anyone have any similar experiences or opinions about this? I'd love to hear about them.
Thanks,
Poss