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[forgetmenot]

So my brother just called lets me know my mother has been in hospital since wednesday. Christ what is wrong with his head. I asked him why he wait 4 days to tell me this he says because he thought my sisterinlaw had called me. Dam it i was just there on Monday and she was fine. I have power of attorney the hospital knows t his why wasn't i called. 4 days i could have been there helping her stupidiness. She will be 80 yrs old and is blind probably very frightened dam it i should have been told now i have to wait until tomorrow to visit. She has a high fever and is on a IV I hate this i wish i had known. I guess i should be greatful he finally clued in and called god i could just scream. I am worried if she does not get well how it will affect both my brothers i think they will be lost without her.

 

[Jazzey]

I'm sorry Violet. My thoughts are with you :hug::hug:.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

I'm sure it must be very stressful and frustrating, V, but try to reframe it this way:

Other family members stepped in and made sure she got the help she needed - proving that you don't have to be on duty 24/7 for everyone in your family - they can actually survive and make decisions without you. She's in hospital. She's being looked after by competent health professionals. And if she has a high fever, chances are she's sleeping most of the time anyway and wouldn't know if you were there or not there.

 

[forgetmenot]

I am grateful they got her to hospital i am. My brother has come along way in being responsible I just wish i had know earlier so i could have given her some moral support. I will go tomorrow and the hospital staff will be questioned as to why i was not notified as they know i have power of attorney over my mother health. I am just sad i am just sad I am grateful she is being taken care of she is getting the medical attentiion she needs I am just tired I guess You are right they did well they did really well next time they will know to call be directily not to trust another person to call. take care all will be well i am sure. thanks

 

[David Baxter PhD]

My point, Violet, is that you can relax for tonight. Everything has been taken care of. And, as I said, this should prove to you that it's okay for you to relax and not be on duty 24/7 when it comes to your family. Others can take up the slack.

 

[forgetmenot]

Relax right breath i understand thanks I will tell them how well they did They did good You are right i can't be everywhere all the time i am grateful my brother handled things.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Good. Well done, V. :2thumbs:

 

[Domo]

I hope your mum is ok Violet :support:

 

[forgetmenot]

Thanks i will go spend the afternoon with my mom today and explain what happened. I am going to rest some more now so i have some energy I hope she will be well enough to come home soon. take care.

 

[Murray]

I am so sorry to hear that your mom is in the hospital and that you have the added stress of not knowing what was happening with her until days later. That can be so hard to take, but as Dr Baxter said, you don't always have to responsible for everything. Please take care of yourself during this stressful time.

 

[forgetmenot]

My mother is okay she has a terrible swollen foot and leg this cause of her fever she will stay on iv antibiotics for a few days more. I brought her a radio and some sweaters to wear. I spent some time with her it is hard because i know she needs alot of care. I told my brothers to try to go at meal times to feed her as the nurses are too busy to do that. they said they would try. I am just so tired so sad these days i hope somehow things start to change I am too dam emotional and i hate it. I need to be focused i need my strength back somehow.